I think we've got to the end of the line

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There's nothing awful. Just I think I've had enough. 10 years married, no kids.

It just seems such hard work and just no fun, he gets stressed so easily about the littlest thing, I'm snapping at him all the time. We spend evenings sat on the sofa. We don't talk about anything really.

Both early 50s.

I've got my house that I rent out.

I think we could just limp on for a bit longer till I've got some savings together, we are doing a house up and that's emptied our savings.

Is that how it ends sometimes. No great drama or infidelity - just two people who are bored with each other?

Yep.

I think many relationships would end at that stage if people were honest with themselves but they're not and they don't feel it's a good enough reaso so they bury their heads I the sand and continue until there is a big drama or infidelity.

Far healthier to end it at the stage where yu know its no longer working or making you happy.

Life's too short to be lonely in a relationship. Would you even want to try and make it better if you could? Would you even want to try therapy to brighten things up? If the answer is no, then it is best you end it. When people have been together for so long it can happen that the relationship just comes to a natural end. You still have so much life left to be happy!

yep, I'm lonely in the relationship. I don't look forward to going home.

I think so, I’m the male partner in a pretty similar situation, I think I’m just done really

I'm spending money on stuff to try and make it better. The house is probably the prime example. But a bifold door and a kitchen Island isn't going to make us happier together.

Lots of people are trapped in relationships which aren't happy... Fear of loneliness? Financial impact? What else to do with all that free time?

I've just been reading some other threads and I've come to the conclusion that some posters enjoy drama? As if drama didn't exist what else would they be doing with themselves? Maybe having someone to complain about is better not having someone at all?

If you've got a good support network around you and have maintained relationships, you shouldn't feel more emboldened to break up.

I'm sure posters will come along saying that boredom isn't a good enough reason to break up...

@anthurium except everyone so far has said yes it sounds like the end of the line so best to leave...

I'll miss the house. Will I miss him - I don't know really? I think it might be a bit of a relief to go back to being single.

I suppose I ought to just start doing more stuff on my own - new stuff, old stuff - just something. I suspect I'd be a nicer person to live with then which might improve things.

And it'll build up my oomph to actually make a decision.