Trust your gut

[Feelingparanoid]

When I first visited these forums I used to read a lot of responses to questions about suspicions of infidelity, which basically told the OP to 'trust your gut' and the like. Although my gut (!) felt this was wise advice, I never fully believed that there was such a thing as gut instinct.

When I first started wondering about my husband, there was no tangible evidence that he was straying. I just had feelings, and could quite legitimately have been called 'paranoid'. I kept on concentrating on these feelings, and searching (sometimes blind alleys) for over a year until I finally got the answers I had been seeking.

Further down the line I evidence came to light which lead to a really shocking revelation of infidelity over a period of time.

Can I just ask, what do you think is this 'gut feeling' which appears to kick in and is proven to be right so many more times than not?

Just like pinkbonbon - when I was dating I arranged to meet a guy in a pub. He was a lovely guy, had a lovely afternoon and went home on cloud 9. Arranged to meet up again the following week.

I was waiting outside the pub for him, saw him drive past on his way to park up and my gut told me to walk away. It was the most overwhelming feeling ever, out of nowhere. He didn't know my address or anything about me so I could have just disappeared from his life. But I didn't.

I spent the next 18 months trying to get away from him as safely as possible, without him smashing up my home or worse still, me. I had a very lucky escape as I realised 'who' he was pretty quickly.

So now I always listen to my gut.

Even so I learned valuable lessons. I also have more sympathy for women who get tangled up with such men and know why they find it so hard to leave 💐