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Should I leave my husband

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getmeacupoftea · 11/10/2021 13:39

My husband is more or less perfect. He's a great man. He'd do anything for me. He's wonderful with our young kiddies, caring, attentive, kind and handsome. He's my best friend, and I love him. We're really lacking in passion, and I feel like the spark has gone. He's been dealing with depression for years, and it makes him needy, he doesn't do much around the house to help, I need to give him suggestions on what to do with the kids when I'm a work, because he just wants to vegetate in front of the telly. We also have sex 1-2 times a month. I know it's the depression doing this to him. He is on medication and receiving therapy. I've been waiting for years for him to get his lust for life back. I feel really unhappy, and now I've met someone at work I can't help but think about a different life. I'm so scared and worried I don't love my husband anymore. I want things to work with him, I want back that burning desire I had for him, but I'm scared it won't happen. I haven't done anything physical with this person at work, but we certainly care for each other. I feel like a nasty horrible bitch, and the guilt about hurting my husband makes me cry sometimes, but I can't stop thinking about this other guy, and how I don't think I'd stop myself if an intimate moment arose. I feel like it's a sign my marriage is over , which makes me want to cry with fear and guilt. I feel awful for our kids. Has anyone else experienced these feelings?

OP posts:
GoodnightGrandma · 11/10/2021 15:11

No, but I know what it’s like to have a DH with mental health problems.
Many years down the line we don’t have sex ( antidepressants meant he couldn’t come and he wouldn’t take Viagra ), I no longer love him, we’re in separate bedrooms, I have a lot of resentment and frustration.
You need to take a step back from this temptation as see if you’re relationship is over, or if you’re just having a wobble. You

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