What/ how counselling ?

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I’m stuck. We’ve had the chat, he says he doesn’t know what to do.
I feel like the relationship is over, but he’s not a bad man. It’s like sharing a house with someone.
What would couples counselling do ? How do access it and how do you know it’s a good one ?

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You google counsellors in your area and see what they specialise in and contact a few. Or contact a well known organisation like relate to see what they offer. Its hard to know they are a good one till you are in process tbh.

What would it do. Support you both through some difficult conversations and to navigate the way forward. To help you move forward and become unstuck. Potentially to end your relationship peacefully and amicably. To decide if there is anything left to save.

Thanks for that.
I just feel that it’s difficult to choose someone, I’d rather go knowing that they’re good !

Cant you choose one from the list of certified ones from their professional body in your area. One quick google told me its the BACP and then search for your area. They have a biog and what they specialise in so you can look for someone who does couples or mediation?

Unfortunately its not an easy thing to ask around for a recommendation of is it! Plus people see them for different reasons and someone who is good for eating disorders or childhood trauma might be rubbish at marriage stuff!

You can also ask to speak to them on the phone and see what feeling you get?