[quote Fireworksfly]@JustThisLastLittleBit
My past relationships have been awful and I seem to attract the 'wrong' type again and again. I need to work on myself and self respect[/quote]
Just end relationships when they start to feel bad. That's all your boundaries sorted, and your dating life about 92% more positive. Don't question why you feel bad. Just leave. If you find yourself, in 5 years, having left 30 men because they were all liars or they all had too little money or the all had a troublesome ex, you might want to look at yourself and see if there's any glitches in your thinking. But if you're looking back and thinking that they each were doing something that made you unhappy, and they were each different, then you're essentially looking at your own boundaries working. Your own filter actually doing the filtering it's meant to.
'Working on your self respect' is a bit of a weird phrase. How are we supposed to do it? All you can do is listen to your feelings, and instead of thinking 'Maybe I'm wrong to feel this..?', you respect the feelings. You allow them to guide you.
If you're on an ice-rink and you don't like skating, you don't question yourself, think there's something wrong with you, and try to make yourself like skating. You just get your shoes back on and wait in the bar.
So why, if you're in a relationship you don't like, do you question yourself, think there's something wrong with you, and try to make yourself like it?