what trait takes you from 99 to 1 in a date in a second?

[BobbiPinsOn]

for me its
mememe syndrome!

Sorry OP for taking over your thread.

To answer your question properly even though I’m not dating at the moment, if I was I would think it would be having the childish opinion that any hobbies that aren’t proper ‘lads’ hobbies are boring/geeky. A friends DP is like this and it’s embarrassing.

Just curious, for all those mentioning being 'tight fisted', do you offer to buy a round or go Dutch on a date come bill time? Or are you the sort of person who executes a perfect fake reach or scurries off to powder your nose and expect the bill fairies to take care of things when you are in the bathroom?

Anyone bringing up anything sexual without an invite to do so when you’ve only just met

An admiration for Nigel Farage

@DillonPanthersTexas I defo buy my share of rounds and go Dutch/initiate rather than just reciprocate it is the 21st century.

Would like to add nose picking, public dental flossing eww farting (sbd) nansplaining, manspreading, snack request ing, first aid supplies demanding (offer them a tampon if they think women are walking pharmacies/dispensaries). I also have an irrational dislike of those complaining about "shop bought" cakes when they can't fikken cook themselves!

Yes yes to UKIP voting Nigel Garage admiring types who get insulted by women having hairy armpits (even though they are not involved with said hairy pit owners)!

Mean with money
Anti vaxxer
Brexit voter
Proud of never having read a book

Turning up with a hangover
Serious mental health problems
Low intelligence with poor attitude

Not making an effort with their appearance, one guy turned up in old scruffy trainers, which he was aware of and even said I just chucked these trainers on, these are my Asda trainers.

Vaping or smoking, I wouldn't date if I knew in the first place but sometimes they lie!

Being shorter than me, or skinny.

Bad teeth

Patchy beards

When you find out they haven't got a secure job or home and they are a sofa surfing quitter. Unfortunately I attract these types without trying or are they just rife online dating.

Being tight, boasting about not paying maintenance, not seeing his kids, rude to staff, making unsolicited suggestive comments, talking about himself constantly and never once asking about me.

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Being tight

Can you give an example?

bringing a cute puppy/kitten (obviously borrowed for the occassion)

[quote Buggritbuggrit]@BobbiPinsOn Why do you keep starting these sorts of posts? No massive objections to you being a journalist or similar, but you really should announce it and be transparent from the outset.[/quote]
I am not a journalist. Next time maybe you should ignore my threads.

@Pinkbonbon

A bit random but:

Telling me they 100% don't believe in ghosts (or God for that matter). I know we won't get on. Not because of a difference in belief but because I think anyone who can say these things with certainty like that, is probably quite arrogant.

Not believing in something which has no evidence base to support it is a very sensible course of action.

No part of this is arrogant.

It is not arrogant to say 'I have not experienced or seen any evidence of something, so, therefore I don't know'. But it is arrogant to say 'it's not real' just because you have not seen no evidence of it.

I've never seen an alien for example. But there are millions of planets out there so who knows what's possible. So if someone is giving it 'they aren't real because I've never experienced it' I do think there is a degree of arrogance there.

@Bookworm65
No, it wouldn't be alright to say that either. But, no one does. The point being there's pros and cons with both. To only see the cons suggests narrow mindedness.

But no, it hasn't happened to me, but people do write it on their profile, and it's an immediate swipe left from me.

A sexist remark.

Funnily enough, although I'm not at all religious, I wouldn't bring it up. So if somebody made a point of telling me what a great big rational athiest they were, I'd be a bit put off too. I'm open to what I don't understand and I feel really uncomfortable around people who just shoot everything right down. Conversations about ......... what if? and why do you believe that, how did you reach that conclusion, what would change your mind, are you certain, what if you're wrong! These conversations are (to me ) interesting, so BIG ANNOUNCEMENTS of atheism on date one would make me think, oh you're going to be a bit domineering, not a fan of healthy debate.

PS I was reading somewhere, oh, in a John Bradshaw book about the concept of 'shame' that The Kingdom of God can be interpreted as self-awareness. I found that a really interesting idea. Also, listening to Russell Brand's book ''Revelation'' on audio recently I feel I agree with him, never thought I'd say that. God can be what you need it to be. It doesn't have to be God, but may you need it to be God. And if God works for somebody then don't belittle them when you're off to your weekly accupuncture session that you cannot miss.

Assuming they’re not stupid, racist or sexist, anyone too money minded, not interested in the world or without ambition.

Think anyone who disregarded another person because of who they vote for would be a massive turnoff for me

Someone who, on the first date, leaves the venue same direction as you and insists on holding your hand or makes you walk with them arm in arm. Very entitled, and controlling and assuming!

Not being able to keep up a conversation

The sort that say they are looking for free thinking people who haven't put poisonous vaccines in the body .... pig shit thick.
The ones that say no psychos in the profile or not mad exs.
Smokers.
Lots of other things as others have said.

So many to choose from. For the sake of variety on here I would say coughing/throat clearing without putting a hand over your mouth.

That can go in the Daily Fail’s Mumsnet Bitches Round on Journalist drivel

Bigotry