Stay or leave my 10 yrs relationship

[Zetaki311]

Hi everyone, I need your help.
After 10 years with my partner some issues surfaced and I wonder whether I should break up. We live abroad since 8 yrs with no family or relatives close.
Issues are:

1. He doesn't want to ever join me on vacation with some important people in my life. I tell him that from the overall 3 weeks vacation, he can spend the 2 of them the way he wants with his friends and 1 week with me and my cousin/sister etc. He refuses that!
2. He wants to send our parents in a hotel when they come for longer than one week. My parents rarely visit and I don't want to send them in a hotel. I have a strong bond with them whereas my partner is very distant with his parents.
3. When I ask him in case of a health issue if he will support me financially, he responds that first I will have to use part of my savings till I reach his saved amount (cause it happens that I have a bit more saved), and once I reach his, he will support.I am financially independent but I wanted to know if he will have my back.
4. I struggle with anxiety disorder and my dad came for support for 10 days, when I asked my dad to stay one week longer my partner got pissed off. He was very rude to my dad and was telling me I need to put boundaries while I was in the worst state I have ever been. Couldn't eat or do anything else. My dad visited us for the first time in 8 yrs and came for care.
5. He doesn't seem to understand or regret any of the above. We talked a lot and he said I should congratulate him for the way he handled the situation while my dad was with us. Couldn't believe my ears
6. I asked him to bring help for the housekeeping while I was feeling shitty and he refused with shouting and telling me I should get rid of my perfectionist tendency. I just wanted to test his support and love one more time and he failed.

It's my first long term relationship and I really don't know whether I should try any longer or I should just leave. What do you guys advise? Thank you dears

@Zetaki311

You don’t sound happy sorry you are sad.
I guess he knows that.

Sounds like you both need to communicate.

“I just wanted to test his love and support”, after 10 years you clearly don’t feel cherished and that’s what matters, not anyone else’s opinion. Life is so damned short.
I was with exH for ten years when it became unexpectedly awful after my Mother passed away, he actually accused me of having an affair that night as my reaction/grief was not how he thought it should be. It took me a while to accept I had been flogging a dead horse all those years and actually he thought very little of me, had controlled me, isolated me. I left, and was blessed to later meet my absolutely lovely DH, who truly does care…what I had with ex was crumbs of what a committed relationship can be like.
Are you happy? Do you feel warm inside at the thought of coming home to your DH? Is he your best friend?

Seems like u are 2 very different people on very different pages on what u want out of married life. Ur father coming over for example would mean the world to u but for ur husband it may have felt suffocating having his inlaws round and hard for him. U either work together and compromise or leave.

It's hard to tell - without his side. I have to admit I would hate to keep having people stay for ages, though.