Does he like me, shall I reciprocate his actions?

[Happygirl124]

I have a male friend (we’re not super close). I see him maybe 1-3 times a week around uni. He always tries to initiate conversation with me and finds a way to touch me, not inappropriately but like on the shoulder or will lean on me for a split second. The other day we was talking and he asked for a hug and it was different from all other hugs we usually give each other. It was a tight hug and for a good few seconds.. then he asked for another one a few mins later.. then we started walking and he put his arm around me and held my shoulder as we walked and spoke, kind of like a side hug.. please don’t bash me in the comments.. I just want your opinions on whether I should make it known that I am interested in him or if you guys think he’s just being nice and I’m over thinking stuff and being an idiot

Why did he keep asking for hugs? That would be totally off-putting for me

It does sound like he's interested. Just go for it OP, we've wasted enough time the past two years so seize the day and all that.

Tbh op he doesn't really seem to have much respect for personal space. But hey, if you like him, ask him out on a date.

But...make sure you read up on love bombing just incase he is one of those weirdos. Infact, read up on how to spot narcissists (npd) I general, gosh I wish I'd known how to see them in my uni years. It would have saved me from so many toxic ppl.

@Pinkbonbon I really hope he’s not just a waste of time and jus trying to get into my pants. But I will definitely look up love bombing and narcissistic people, thank you

[quote Happygirl124]@Pinkbonbon I really hope he’s not just a waste of time and jus trying to get into my pants. But I will definitely look up love bombing and narcissistic people, thank you[/quote]
Well if he is a young student then yeah of course he is only trying to get into your pants lol. Not to say it can't become something more of course.

But an easy way to spot a fake is if they act really, really into you when they barely know you. So if they are all huggy huggy and soppy words just a few weeks into knowing you, it's bullshit lol.

whether I should make it known that I am interested in him or if you guys think he’s just being nice and I’m over thinking stuff and being an idiot

Nix this attitude. You know you're not an idiot. You know these things are hard to work out, and you know that if the two of you are compatible, you'll be able to talk to him about how you feel.

Nobody here or anywhere can tell you if he's interested in you; it's a very nuanced. If you can't tell, and you're actually there, how is anybody else supposed to know?

Communicate with the guy.e

@Pinkbonbon I’m very discouraged now lol, I think I’m just going to leave it for now and try to see if he’s only trying to have sex but he’s 30 and I’m 7 years younger than him

@TheFoundations you’re absolutely right

Aww I was about to say not to be discouraged but...I think if you are only 23 and he is 30 and he is being all full on huggy... he sounds a bit creepy tbh.

Maybe it's not that way in person of course.

Just be careful, y'know. Don't be pressured into anything. And don't make the age old mistake of thinking sex will make a guy like you more.

If you're gonna be seeing eachother class wise for a long time then maybe see how you feel some months down the line and in the mean time, treat him as an acquaintance?

Also, find opportunities to say 'no' to him. It can be little things (or even the hugs if you want). It's a really good way to see if someone respects your boundaries or not. If he sulks or finds a way to push those boundaries then you'll know he is not someone to keep around in any capacity.

He’s definitely in to you.