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Boyfriend still visit the dating site we met

27 replies

lovewarandroses · 09/10/2021 19:54

Hi guys so a friend of mine told me that she saw my boyfriend’s profile being active online and I was like how could he be active when we are boyfriend and girlfriend… so out of curiosity I checked his profile and found out that he had been active like 3 hours ago …. Why visit a dating site when you have a girlfriend… I’m deeply hurt and disappointed… I haven’t confronted him yet … what should I do ????

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Yahyahs22 · 09/10/2021 20:01

Ask him?

Sneezecakesmama · 09/10/2021 20:10

It looks like you are just there to keep him company while he keeps looking for something better. I wouldnt waste time asking, I'd just dump.

RainbowZebraWarrior · 09/10/2021 20:11

Dump him. Seen it a million times. He's not worth your loyalty.

QueenBee52 · 09/10/2021 20:12

He's not your boyfriend.. you're his back up plan..

MC68 · 09/10/2021 20:14

Finish it.

TheFoundations · 09/10/2021 20:31

Ask him why he's been on there. If his response doesn't fully reassure you, end the relationship.

It's hard to do, but it's not complicated in any way. All you have to say is 'How come you were logged into the dating site this afternoon?', and the rest is up to him.

You'll know immediately from his response. Pay very special attention to how you feel when he's answering, rather than trying to believe what he tells you. What you feel is most important.

torquewench · 09/10/2021 20:33

Bin him. Let him carry on sifting through rocks if he's too dumb to realise he's already found a diamond.

EarthSight · 09/10/2021 20:33

@Sneezecakesmama

It looks like you are just there to keep him company while he keeps looking for something better. I wouldnt waste time asking, I'd just dump.
This.
RantyAunty · 09/10/2021 20:43

Is this the same arse that did nothing for you on Valentine's day?

If so, delete and block him. There's no point confronting men like him as all he'll do is lie.

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lovewarandroses · 09/10/2021 20:45

I have asked him and he is denying it …. He said it’s not him accessing the account…. He is such a liar ……

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Original poster
lovewarandroses · 09/10/2021 20:46

Yes that’s him I’m thinking of leaving him honestly how can he do this to me …. I’m hurt

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TheFoundations · 09/10/2021 20:48

If you think he's a liar, end the relationship.

Why would you even consider staying with someone who lies to you?

surreygirl1987 · 09/10/2021 21:01

I had this exact thing. It did not end well. I wasted way too much time with him. Don't repeat my mistakes!

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lovewarandroses · 09/10/2021 22:41

Now he has disappeared and his phone is off ….. I believe he is with another woman … why am I so unlucky with men … I’m so hurt and disappointed at the moment ……

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QueenBee52 · 09/10/2021 22:41

@RantyAunty

Is this the same arse that did nothing for you on Valentine's day?

If so, delete and block him. There's no point confronting men like him as all he'll do is lie.

ffs OP you're still with THIS clown

GreyhoundG1rl · 09/10/2021 22:42

He doesn't consider you his girlfriend.

QueenBee52 · 09/10/2021 22:43

@lovewarandroses

Now he has disappeared and his phone is off ….. I believe he is with another woman … why am I so unlucky with men … I’m so hurt and disappointed at the moment ……

He's doing you a favour...

take the Gift and block him

RantyAunty · 09/10/2021 22:50

He was an arse and is still an arse.

Delete and block him.

The key to finding a nice man is never to make excuses for crap behaviour. Dump them and keep looking.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 10/10/2021 01:00

How long have you been together?!

I can't imagine even considering staying with him after this.

Original poster
lovewarandroses · 10/10/2021 06:49

I have been with him since last year December… it’s almost coming to a year now ….

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WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor · 10/10/2021 06:54

He will likely turn up at some point and tell you some of the following lies -
He just likes to look, it’s a habit, he would never do anything
It’s an old account, he’s not touched it
He was using it to loyalty test someone for a friend
He was checking to see if you were still using it
He has a ‘problem’ and you are the only person who can save him

Shoxfordian · 10/10/2021 07:00

Dump him
Don’t put up with this shit or believe any of his excuses

PixelatedLunchbox · 10/10/2021 07:35

I’m so hurt and disappointed at the moment ……

He showed you who he is earlier this year. Believe him. Purse out of a pig's ear and all that. Stop playing the victim. Choosing to stay with a dirtbag is not "bad luck" -- it's a poor decision. Own it.

girlmom21 · 10/10/2021 07:39

He's going to come back, admit he's used it and tell you his friend told him you were still active. He's lying. Block and delete. Thank goodness you only wasted a year on him.

barbrahunter · 10/10/2021 07:56

I was briefly seeing someone and I found out the same thing. I dumped him. He was a twat anyway.

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