My boyfriend and I were talking on an intimate level for months and months before we started actually having sex and being involved on a relationship level. I'd that makes any sense. Our paths crossed as tricky times in our lives. He was 18 months out of his last relationship and was still sorter scared, grieving, got used to being alone. I had separated from my children's dad. It was like we really wanted eachother but we just couldn't seem to get it going. We still expressed love and feelings. Still talked everyday. Talked about what we wanted. Then he had a massive freak out and got scared. He ran away. I was heartbroken. I couldn't believe it.
Anyway for 4 months we pretty much cut eachother off. I spent all that time trying to understand and I missed him. He popped back in a couple of times but it was like his fears made him run. I gave up. But I kept peeking at his social media. I noticed a women had started love hearting his photos. I was suspicious. Went on her profile. She lives in another town. They had nothing in common. No friends in common. It didn't make sense. But I knew something wasn't right. When he got back in touch in May this year he kept me at a distance and I started to feel hurt and confused. Which resulted in me saying look what do you even want I've had enough. He shut down and said he had strong feelings for me but didn't know what to say. Later that day I saw this lady had liked his latest photo. So I got stressed and messaged her. I asked her if anything was going on between her and him. She said they were just friends but had a thing not long ago. I asked what thing? Explained I had been in his life for the last year but he had ran away. She said she was from tinder. They met a few times. Then he told her he couldn't have a relationship with her. He said he wasn't ready. She told me it was roughly April time they had this fling. She confirmed they had sex. Be never loved her. There was no talk of anything serious. I didn't say anything to him about knowing but told him I was sick of the situation and was done.
In July he turns up at My door. He's been to councilling. He finally opened up. He had been in touch with one of his dad's exes who had also helped him clear alot of baggage regarding his dad who had let him down alot. He admitted he had struggled massively to start with loosing his ex and he was so terrified when feelings came for me he just said to himself, he couldn't do it and ran. He said he wanted to tell me how much he loved me and wanted it to work but he needed time to sort himself and his support meant he now felt ready. He told me he's ready to put in 100% and he wants a relationship.
We have been together since July and everything is going great. But he's never told me about his tinder fling. She's still on his Facebook and they do like eachothers stuff. She's actually got engaged now. So she's moved on. I find it all abit strange that they have kept in touch.
Should I be worried and hurt he's hidden her from me. Or do you think he doesn't need to as we were off and technically it was nothing to do with me. I guess sometimes I'm hurt he has kept her on his Facebook if he wouldn't want me to know. What would you do?