DH doesnt want to go to my mums for christmas

[SaltAndPepper]

My mum has invited us to their house on christmas day. DH has said absolutely no way.

I can see why, last year my mum sat watching coronation street and her husband insisted on watching Tom and Jerry cartoons all day (which we hate), then his parents came over and put some old black and white film on.

It was a very 50's style christmas day and to be fair we were bored still all day as were the kids. We're quite young (early 20's) so our christmas days are spent playing with toys (yes me and DH too lol), having christmas music on, maybe watching a fun DVD in the afternoon...

but I cant help feeling guilty. are we being out of order?

go for lunch and leave afterwards - say you have other plans

i don't think watching coronation street deserves a snub on that level

invite them to your house?

if it is simply about what is on the TV, you are being a but unreasonable....

why can't you play with toys at your mum's house? they can still watch telly if they want, but you might find they join in. everybody has different taste (i'd rather watch t&j than a fun dvd any day) but that's the point of family christmas.

It wasn't really about what was on the TV, it was more to do with the fact that they'd put something boring on then sit there watching it in silence. I just like christmas days to be a bit more 'alive'

how can Xmas day not be lively when you have children?

why don't you take a DVD for you all to watch?

Am I guessing right, or is it more the atmosphere that you don't like rather than specifically Coronation St/Tom and Jerry etc.. Do you feel stifled/trapped by these 'restrictions?'. If you do I think your feelings are competely valid. Maybe you could have Christmas in your house? Or if that's not possible could you go for a set time to your mum's, ie morning or lunch or whatever and then spend the rest of the day doing what you want to do?

YANBU apart from the 'Tom and Jerry' bit. The old ones are genius, woman.

I would tell them that you've already planned to have the day at home, but you'll go over for an hour or so in the morning. If your mum has only just extended the invite then I think that would be fair enough.

I hope you enjoy your day.

Patsy

Christmas should be fun.

That does not sound like fun.

Have your day with your family - dh and your kids - and visit the relatives on boxing day or something.

maybe invite them over to yours? then they'll have to do what you want to do? after all , its for the kids is'nt it?