Partner always telling me when a female adds him as a friend 😅

[Klac30]

I'm not the insecure type. I grew up with a very insecure mother which wrecked all her relationships. My stepdad hung around but her literally couldn't look in the direction of another woman or say hello to a woman he knew without my mind flying off the handle. He couldn't work somewhere that had females. She has some deep issues. I swore I'd try not to be the same. It was a toxic household.

I have been hurt in the past but I trust Dp fully. We've been together 9 years. When the bugger isn't at work, he's at home so not sure when he'd ever cheat tbf 😅 I have no doubts about our relationship.

Every time a woman adds Dp on Facebook he makes a massive deal about telling me and I'm like yeah okay whatever. It's mainly old school friends or colleagues. Doesn't really bother me. I have male friends on fb from work or old school friends.

I'm just wondering why he's always got to make a point of telling me? I've never given him any reason that he has to tell me everything? I think his ex was a bit possessive but I am not...

Have you asked him why he tells you?
I should think none of the rest of us have a clue why he does, but he presumably does, so maybe ask him?

Some women have problems with it - there are loads of posts here with women not happy their OH has women on his social media. If his ex was possessive then she was probably likewise. Just tell him he doesn’t need to bother telling you all the time.

Have you asked him?

@layladomino

Have you asked him?

I always just say yeah whatever kind of thing and ask why he's mentioned it - he says well I wanted to make sure you were okay with it despite never giving him a reason to think he has to tell me. He's a closed book at times. A great partner but struggles to get out how he feels - I'm very much the same!

"My stepdad hung around but her literally couldn't look in the direction of another woman or say hello to a woman he knew without :my: mind flying off the handle."

Why was your mind flying off the handle?

I mean, it could be a typo. Or it could be that you are the way you describe your mother and you're bragging? About your boyfriend informing you of every female that adds him? Otherwise, I dont understand why you have posted this asking strangers why you bf does what he does

It sounds like he is trying to get a reaction from you..well done for making sure you are more secure in yourself as cannot be easy with what you witnessed growing up. Just don't give him the reaction he wants and just say that's nice..

It sounds like he's trying to be open with you so you don't worry about anything, just crack on and let him?

Ask him.

And please stop referring to other women as ‘females’. Do you refer to men as ‘males’? I suspect not.

Maybe his ex was insecure and it's a habit he got into