AIBU/vengeful/voyeuristic/anti-woman

[Dubsub]

I guess this says more about me than anyone involved directly in this situation. A woman I used to work with was quite arrogant and would behave in a superior way to myself and other colleagues, particularly those of a lower grader. She would put them down to higher graded colleagues and also suck up to higher graded colleagues. I have just found out that her partner (who I don’t know - but is apparently a bit of a wanker) has been having an affair with another woman for at least 2 years. I have only met this other woman once and she seems nice. I intend to do nothing. But I am shocked how strangely delighted I am, having found out this information. My only hope is that OW stays ok. AIBU/vengeful/voyeuristic/anti-woman for feeling this way. Hit me with your hardest, Mumsnet.

Schadenfreude.

Oh dear Dubsub, why are you so obviously unhealthily obsessed with someone you 'used to work with'? That would indicate a need to move on for a start. You say this woman was quite arrogant yet you clearly identify with her. She apparently acted superior to you and some colleagues, yet you make a very clearly arrogant point of not being considered bad enough to be one of 'those' of a 'lower grade'; she only put 'them' not you down. Wake up and get a life, because the way you're acting right now is a future full of restraining orders.

It sounds like she was already quite insecure (maybe because of him, maybe not). I'm sure this will only make her a whole lot worse though. I'd avoid her and forget about it.

You think the OW is “nice”? For sleeping with someone’s else’s husband. You have a strange opinion of what is nice.

People often tend to dislike their own traits in other people. Do you think you are arrogant and superior?