Ok, enough is enough, give me a plan

[PrincessMargaretRose]

So the last 4 years have been extremely hard, emotional affair (his) disrespectful behaviour and actions on his part towards me, repeatedly shouting and swearing causing the children to cry, in the case of the girls, and aggressive behaviours from the boys. I need a plan of action please.
For context- we own our home
He earns just above minimum wage
Four children
I work part time in three jobs
What do I do first to end this as cleanly and amicably as possible?
Is there any way this can be done without ill feeling?
Can he afford to pay for his own accommodation and could I expect any child support?

Thanks all

I’m in the same position. It’s hard because you have so many emotions running through you and you just want the best for your kids.

Yes LastStraw123, you’re so right, is it best to leave, or should I stay and try to make it better?
I’m in my 12year olds room now as she was crying so much at his shouting, I’m scared he will be so much worse if we split up though, he drinks too much now.

In my opinion you need to leave. His behaviour is affecting your children and you're clearly all miserable.

Start by looking in to what benefits you could claim, how much your house is worth and get copies of any savings statements etc. Be prepared that you won't get much maintenance from him if he doesn't earn very much. You may also need to think about selling your house.

I don't think he'll take it well but that's not a reason to stay. Good luck

He sounds abusive. You could call womens aid for advice and the police if you think he won't leave.

So glad you've come to this conclusion. His behaviour has given you no choice has it.

Take care and get support IRL from people who you know.

Would you say he is abusive op?