Irritating habits but not serious ones

[FlemCandango]

So I can't get too worked up about this because it's petty, but it still grinds my middle aged gears. DH has a habit of calling me and putting me on the spot. So for e.g. he will be in a shop, not as part of a plan but opportunistically, and call saying "what do we need?" I will say "errrrr" as I may be in the middle of something else and need a minute to process... Then he will get all grouchy if I can't supply a well thought through list off the top of my head. 2-3 minutes later when I can it might be "too late" GAH!

If I do something like that to him he is equally useless and less gracious about it than me. But I try not to. The irony is that with 2 autistic children our lives are built around no surprises and avoiding sudden changes.

What other petty irritants can you share to make mine less lonely.

He wouldn't dream of washing up the excess pans, etc, that won't fit in the dishwasher (it's a slimline one). He'll only ever wash up something if he needs to use it.

My ex would need to boil the kettle about 3 times to make tea

Drove me insane

He'd boil kettle - then go get a mug , tea bag in then he'd boil it again - wander over to get milk/ sugar - look at it as if it had cooled down then boil it again

🤯

The inability to decide what to have for dinner..
Always whatever I want.

@FlemCandango

Just get him told!! At some point he knows he's going to the shop so get him to
let you know the minute he decides he's going, then calls you when he's there! Better still HE knows what you need in the house, why not? you're supposed to!?!

DP's most irritating habit (but not serious) ??

Nope... really struggling....

Ok. I guess 'being unwilling to try (food) things that he once tried a few light years ago and decided he didn't like' but that I think he tried when they weren't fresh or prepared in another way. On the other hand it means my avocados/olives etc are all mine 🤣🤣

Turning the TV over if I leave the room - to go to the loo for example. Then act surprised when I come in and ask him to switch it back - “oh, were you watching that?”

The top of any pouch that is removed seems to never be able to be put in the bin at the same time as the pouch itself. It will eventually make it's way to the bin, a few hours or more later...

That if I leave a room for 5 minutes the light must be turned off. Fine for energy saving but annoying when I'm about to go back.

Mine likes to ease himself into his day gently by doing fuck all other than have coffee and browse social media. He gets up at 6 and leaves the house at 7 when we’re just getting up so I come down to a huge pile of dishes and no washing on etc. He does do washing up and dishes but he would never dream of breaking up his gentle easing into the day. Whereas my day starts manically and doesn’t stop until kids are in bed, even when I’m out all day myself. He’s home when kids are in bed so misses out on all the “fun” of tantrums, homework, dishes and dinner at the same time and dealing with the dog. On his days off he does quite a bit more but I don’t have days off from the mundanity and manic chores.