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Advice needed.

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alltheusernameshavegone · 06/10/2021 18:24

Before I let rip and cause WW3 I could do with some advice.

DP has a really stressful job and it's pretty obvious at the minute he's not coping with it. The brunt of it he's taking out on me - I know he isn't doing it on purpose but I'm getting the shitty end of the stick.

I've been unwell all week, the other day he made a sarky comment about there being no dinner made when he got home. When I called him up on it it was the usual story of I've taken what he's said the wrong way.

He's now just come in eaten dinner, dumped his plates in the sink and announced he's off to the pub. I was asked but declined. Every time we go out he leaves me sat alone while he's talking work, work, work with anyone who will listen. His drinking is becoming an issue. We went out for drinks last week and I ended up coming home alone because he just ignores me. The only time he shows any interest in intimacy with me is when he's had a skin full. Any other time he's too tired, too stressed and any other excuse he can come up with.

I have had it out with him many times about all this and I just get no where. I'm absolutely fed up and planning on giving him a piece of my mind when he returns. I'm sick of all of this.

The mental load to do with family gets left to me, if I'm ill I just have to suck it up and deal with it. I get no sick days or time to feel better.

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category12 · 06/10/2021 18:51

Maybe it's worth considering going it alone?

It's actually easier mentally, doing it on your own, than resenting a full-grown adult who is supposedly your partner that doesn't do their share. Plus who creates extra work.

There's only so many times you can row about it and get nowhere.

alltheusernameshavegone · 06/10/2021 18:54

I think it's something I need to think about.

I've been on my own before that doesn't phase me. At least then I've no one to resent and only my own needs to take care of.

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alltheusernameshavegone · 06/10/2021 21:53

I've ended iir

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