Long story short. Me and DH separated 3 weeks ago, both still in same house. Together 11 years married 7. I was adamant it was over his time, had 3 major breakups in the last 5 years and was done. I have 3 ds from previous marriage and 1dd together. Everyone at home on eggshells but getting on with it as best we can. Pre split lots of arguments that go on for days as neither will back down. Normally around my ds’ or “his money”. He on 3x more salary than me as works away. Always been an issue with my youngest ds 15 practically ignores him, doesn’t even say hello! He says there’s no problem but I disagree. I think it’s to do with his ds 15 with ex, he has just never connected with my ds and it’s breaking my heart. Latest split occurred by him squaring up to my ds 18 and throwing his girlfriend out of the house, not physically just asking her to get out now as it’s not a @&£&£ hotel! I was so embarrassed and the poor girl was devastated! He has a temper but has never done anything to any of us. Deep down I feel that he wants to be single but also have the security of a family unit! He’s quite happy to lounge around all day watching tv. I understand he works hard when he’s a way, 4 weeks away, 4 weeks home but it’s like he sees the 4 weeks at home as his holiday time. I know I’m doing the right thing but starting to have doubts especially after he comes in this morning saying we can’t through 11 years away, we can both change, he loves me and always will etc. Is this normal? Am I only feeling sorry for him? I’ve dreamt of getting out for so long but today I feel so sad and upset.