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NanaPorsche · 06/10/2021 12:34

My daughter's partner has stopped coming home.

She was asking him to have the children on his own every Sunday - if they weren't doing anything special as a family, so she could catch up with jobs around the house (she's recently returned to work after maternity leave).

He hated this and would constantly get her to do most of the 'tasks' with the children - make lunch, change nappies, watch them whilst he just does this ....

She has always been a 'biking widow' - he's out cycling at every opportunity.

Then he stopped being home at bath time, weekends. Then he would stay out overnight. Then he would be away for four nights in a row. Now he's not been 'home' since the beginning of September.

He says he's sleeping in his workshop (Self employed) and he's overwhelmed with work, therefore working around the clock.

He's a liar - been around at night, all in darkness, locked up, no vehicle outside.

My daughter was getting 'ducks in a row' financially and found a screwed up letter from CSA addressed to her partner at his father's address, from CSA about non payment of maintenance for two teenage sons that my daughter didn't know existed.

He's stopped giving her money towards the house - he's only ever given her £500 a month. They have two sons under two years and my daughter has a five year old daughter. The house is in her name, all utilities in her name. (I always wondered why - and now I know, he doesn't want to be 'found').

He's paid for a dishwasher, Hoover, and laptop - which he is now demanding back 'because I can't afford to pay for you and your children and rent my own place at the same time'.

Can my daughter argue that these things are required in order to fulfil the children's needs?

His personal belongings fit into one bin bag. He's already sold her mountain bike and road bike which she paid for and kept at his workshop.

She really doesn't have the money to replace these items.

Can he really turn up and take them?

Locks have been changed.

OP posts:
Soozikinzi · 06/10/2021 12:50

I think she needs to see a solicitor they usually give a free appointment as the first half hour she really needs to get stuff sorted financially.

Pinkbonbon · 06/10/2021 12:52

Of course not. The house is in her name and she has changed the locks, he has no right to enter her property. If he turns up demanding anything she should just not answer the door. If he won't leave, have her call the police.

I would have her text or email (so she has in writing) 'as you have been gone a month and are contributing nothing to bills or the household, I have changed the locks and you have no right to re-enter my property. I have dropped your property off with your mum and I will be putting in a claim for child support. My solicitor will be in touch regarding arranging contact times with the kids. Furthermore, I expect you to return payment for my mountain bike which you sold without the rights to do so. I will allow one week for the return of the money before I report this as theft to the police'.

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