I will never raise a child in a loving relationship

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I'm 22 weeks pregnant and pretty sure dp and I are splitting up. We've been together nearly 4 years and we just don't work. We've said we're going to have some space and he's going to his parents but I'm pretty sure there's no going back really. I have a dd (10) and wasn't with her father (we split before I found out I was pregnant), and now won't be with this baby's dad. I'm so devastated that I'll never raise a child with someone, in a loving relationship. I don't want any more children and I just hate that I'll never get to do it the 'right' way. I didn't want to be a single mum again 😞 I love dd and raising her alone has meant that we have such a wonderful bond and I'm actually grateful that I got to be a single mum to her. But I don't want to do it alone again. I know we'll be okay and I will love this baby and be a good mum to her, I'm just desperately sad right now and have this lonely future ahead that I am dreading. I know there will be positives but it's hard to see them right now.

Hi there, I hear you. I too am a single mum and although i want a relationship and possibly more children, the thought of doing it alone all over again stops e in my tracks. Congratulations on ur baby and on the great relationship u have with ur eldest. Do u have family or friends who can support u in real life? X

It’s ok to be sad. But keep in mind that you don’t know what the future holds. I thought I would be doing it alone. But then I met DH who is a great step dad and co parents with me. Is your DD excited about the baby? She may be a great help to you.

I hear you.

I know it's no consolation, but you're doing the best thing for your impending arrival. Better to be parented by a strong single mum than by a fucked up couple, right?

Thank you for your replies. I'm lucky enough to have a good support system, but it's not the same as having a partner to share it all with you.