Will I ever get over him

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We were together 3 years. Have been split up 2 years & haven't spoken in 6 months. He's with someone else now and it's so painful I haven't been able to look to see who she is on any social media. I blocked completely but tonight an insensitive friend sent me a picture of the 2 of them to show how fat he has got. I honestly felt all the pain rushing back. 6 months zero contact zero social media stalking and a picture of him & her has knocked me for six. We haven't been together in 2 years when will this pain end I feel so pathetic and sad

I'm so sorry. Love is shit sometimes. It sounds as if you're doing your best. It will get better, in time, and not feel so raw. Best to keep busy, see lots of friends. Try to keep positive. Xx

I feel you xx

When you go out with friends and enjoy life experiences.
The last 18 months hasnt been the best time to do this, but start now. You're dwelling and need something to occupy your time.

It gets better, if really does.

Oh op, it can be hard sometimes, and social media just makes it so much harder when you need a clean break. All I can tell you is that I had a breakup like this once, i had been the one to end it, but regretted it hugely. I was sick with myself thinking I’d throw my future away and lost something special. It took me a good year of zero contact to get over it, but even then I still had the odd pang. 10 years on, I feel nothing for him! All I see now is all the reasons I left him and I have no regrets at all. Time really is the best healer.

All you can do in the meantime is be kind to yourself. Do things to make yourself feel good, be a friend to yourself. You WILL get through it.

I'm also guessing he's probably a total prick who isn't worth crying over but I know that won't help sorry xx

You're doing all the right things It's a bloody horrible feeling though

When you find someone else then you'll forget how much it hurts.

@solarsky I have been seeing someone the last 6 weeks trying my best to date but it's just not there I need to end it whilst I stilll feel like this. I thought 2 years 6 months I should try but clearly still not ready 😢

It's horrible and even more so when you actually see it .. I've been there! Why did you split up and how come there's been no contact for 6 months?

@Skyline24 we split up because I have a young child from a previous relationship and he wanted to travel.it was never about anyone else or not loving Each other. We stayed in contact for 2 years while he travelled around. Stupid I know but then he met her 6 months ago. I couldn't beat to say in touch knowing he had moved on. I didn't even want to see what she looked like so seeing it tonight has floored me. I've really lost him now that's the reality

Stop seeing the guy you're dating, when you find someone you like enough I promise the pain of it will go, he isn't the only man you will have strong feelings for.
Remember your lifestyles just weren't compatible and stay hopeful that one day you will find someone that is better suited for you.
It doesn't help your friend send you the picture which was very insensitive, I hope you've told her that you don't need to see that.

Hi OP, is it possible that u suffer from depression? Can u get some councelling? Recently, I started feeling trapped because of things i want to do but can't because I am a lone parent. It is hard when something doesn't work out. xx

Pain is like a box with a button and a ball inside. The ball rattles around and when it hits the button you feel pain. To start with the box is small and the ball hits the button a dozen times a day. But as time passes the box gets bigger. The ball hits the button less often. But when it does, the pain is still the same. It never hurts less, you just feel it less often.

You don’t have to get over it and it’s a ridiculous idea that you should. The key thing is for you to be able to function 99% of the time without feeling that pain. There’s nothing you can do about the 1% where something triggers you and it still hurts. I still sometimes have pain from a breakup 25 years ago. Not very often, but sometimes. I’m fine with it. It’s part of me.

Just keep putting yourself out there. You'll meet someone you really like sooner or later and the thought will just suddenly hit you that you haven't thought about your ex in a while and you're over it. Don't stay with someone you're not into cos you'll just compare them to your ex and it'll make you feel worse. But I promise it gets easier and that one day you won't give a toss about your ex.

@NumberNineTwo I really love what you wrote it really is how I feel.

Thank you all for responding to me ❤️