I hate my brain!

[Jasmine00]

Ive ended a relationship that I was unhappy in and was going no where.
The negatives out weighed the positives by far.
Why the hell is my brain now remembering all the good times and good stuff? On friday all I could see was negatives, now I dont have him any more, suddenly all the good stuff has come flooding back and I'm wondering if I've thrown the towel in too soon!!
I hate you brain!!!
I'm sticking to my guns, I felt miserable alot of the time, its not worth feeling like this I know it!!

Always follow your gut - not your brain.

@MontalbanoFan

Always follow your gut - not your brain.

You are so right I'm repeating that one. My guts been telling me for ages he's not right for me

Give us a list of all the bad stuff! I'm the same,
I also hate by brain or my mind or whatever it is that casts a spell over
Me every time I have
Sex with an unsuitable man and have bonded.

Then you’ve done the right thing. It’s hard though, I know.

No communication- couldn't discuss anything of any depth as he went very awkward and closed off
No compliments, anything nice to say to me
Had previously had only fans subscriptions
Has lied to me previously
No trust on my part
Against any kind of affection in public so felt like 2 mates when out
Could only open up and be himself after alcohol
Was dull when sober
Did not understand me or my needs
Could not offer support when I lost a close friend
Omg the list could go on double as that!!

@Jasmine00

No communication- couldn't discuss anything of any depth as he went very awkward and closed off No compliments, anything nice to say to me Had previously had only fans subscriptions Has lied to me previously No trust on my part Against any kind of affection in public so felt like 2 mates when out Could only open up and be himself after alcohol Was dull when sober Did not understand me or my needs Could not offer support when I lost a close friend Omg the list could go on double as that!!

Wow! He sounds like a prince among men. I mean I have married worse so I can't really talk but your brain must know you have done the right thing? I think it's whatever the bonding hormone (syntocin?) that's responsible for the messed up missing him thoughts. Once you start filling your life up with lovely friends and happy times the thoughts of him will get smaller and smaller. And the passing of time will help too. Like you wouldn't want a friend or a daughter in a relationship with someone with only some of that stuff on the list. for you, I know it's tough in the early days.

Don't stop there op double the list and keep going ,anything to make you realise you made the right decision for you.