Hi there!
I’m finding myself in a bit of a pickle.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months. It’s been a bit of a whirlwind, we met in my home country, went on holiday together abroad a couple of weeks later, then I went to his home country to meet his friends and family a couple of weeks after that.
I know it sounds fast, but honestly the relationship feels really stable and calm, it all feels very natural and I'm so happy.
Anyway, a couple of months after we met, he moved to another continent for his job. (It had been in the works for a while)
We’ve both been in long distance relationships before and staying together was a no brainer. We want the same things in life and seem to be extremely compatible.
As I’ve been looking to move away myself and change my job, we started talking about me moving to his new location. I was a bit reluctant as it’s so far away and we haven’t been together long but it felt right. Also his location could be a good place for my career. However, I would need to apply for a work visa which is difficult to get.
Anyway, today I received news. I have been accepted for a work visa in the country I’ve always wanted to live in. (A country which is even farther away from him)
I’m really not sure what to do. I know I want to pursue this dream but I also know that this man is my dream man. He’s being super supportive, saying whatever I choose to do he will be here as he wants to build a long term future with me. But realistically, being in a long distance relationship for a year or two until he returns to Europe seems like it has low chances of survival.
I really want to give us a fighting chance… but I don’t want to give up my plans…
So… what do I choose? Help!
P.S. My new work visa is conditional on me moving there asap so I cannot delay it.