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What to do about Wayne Slob

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CrispsCrazy · 04/10/2021 12:25

Hi, Wayne and I have been married 6 years, he is step dad to my two teenagers. Wayne is an excellent dad, is very kind, caring and thoughtful and would do anything for me and would love me no matter what. Unfortunately Wayne is incredibly untidy, he always has a dirty face, I don’t think he’s brushed his teeth this year, he won’t sort out his b o, he leaves baccy in bed after he’s made a fag, bedroom always stinks of fags and he thinks it acceptable to go around in a t shirt that half covers his belly. We’ve had several conversations about these things, he sorts them for about a fortnight and it’s back to square one. All of these things make me unattracted to him. Am I being petty? Has anyone called it a day on their marriage because of a slobby spouse?

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BiscuitLover09876 · 04/10/2021 19:44

I think you've relaxed too much and it's got too far. Is there something that is a deal breaker? I'd pick one small thing and focus on helping him with that. Be as nice as you can about it and show him why it's so important to you.

Workinghardeveryday · 04/10/2021 20:15

Come on now!!! That is just absolutely terrible!!! One of those things would be a huge turn off!!! The teeth brushing, bo, op I feel sorry for you.

I am not surprised you haven’t been intimate!! Ewww.

Give him another chance to change his ways, remind him the FIRST time he doesn’t bother. If he still carries on not bothering that would be it for me.

Good luck xx

ChargingBuck · 04/10/2021 20:19

@BiscuitLover09876

I think you've relaxed too much and it's got too far. Is there something that is a deal breaker? I'd pick one small thing and focus on helping him with that. Be as nice as you can about it and show him why it's so important to you.
She's his wife, not his girlfriend.

Women are not obliged to "teach" men how to perform basic hygiene or to "Be Kind" in a desperate attempt to get a man to go through the motions of respecting them.

If Slob hasn't yet perceived how important it is, despite OP's repeated tellings, how much more "nice as you can" do you think is gonna swing it now?

ChargingBuck · 04/10/2021 20:19

SHOOT - "She's his wife, not his MOTHER" - I meant to write.

ChargingBuck · 04/10/2021 20:21

Also, Crisps - why the hell are you the one forced out onto the sofa?

Aquamarine1029 · 04/10/2021 20:43

You need to figure out why your standards are so shockingly low. Most women wouldn't put up with this disgusting man for 30 minutes.

BrendaBubbles · 04/10/2021 21:23

To be honest the poetic way you describe him in the first post reminded me of Onslow from Keeping Up Appearances and made me think rather kindly of him. Maybe it’s just how he is and it sounds like you love him

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