Tired of partners mood swings / work related

[Venus168]

Hey everyone, first time posting here but need someone to turn too who can give me some honest advice.
My partner is a current serving police officer and has only been in the force two years. He currently works a 6 day shift pattern with 2 morning, 2 late and 2 night shifts. He then has 4 days off.
Thing is, in the last 6 months or so he's mood has changed completely. He's currently contacted a counsellor and is on session two because of possible ptsd, but truth be told I'm struggling to be around him.

We have two children together and because of his mood swings etc lately he has been shouting at them so much lately, he's always on his phone chatting to his work colleagues and tends to shut me out. He said the other day that he doesn't know how to feel about anyone or anything and that the only emotion he has is anger. I'm happy and proud of him to be seeking help but I'm just not sure how long I'll last being with someone a shell of the person they used to be. He's always tired, never wants to do anything and is super grouchy.

Any other fellow partners of police officers feel the same/felt the same and how you dealt with it

I'm super proud and supportive of his career, I just feel like if things go on the way they are going, it's going to ruin our relationship.

OP - it is possible that the change of his sleeping routine has affected him. Sleep deprivation is a form of torture - so I hope he also gets a medical checkup.
And - obviously - a policeman who has mood/anger issues is a danger not only to you but also us the public.
So for the sake of all involved - I do hope he gets help.
Whether you stick around while he does depends on how bad it is. You and your kids need to be safe first. The rest is a choice.

My dad is a police officer and yep it’s changed him he’s not the same person he used to be :( I think it’s the same for most of them tbhh

Many people are are attracted to certain careers because they're interested in them, but those careers demand a certain type of lifestyle that isn't suitable for everyone. Just think about the type of people, men usually, who work on oil rigs. You might want to be a certain type of engineer.....but does everyone want to work or live on an oil rig in the middle of the sea??

Some people find this out too late as you can't always be sure something won't suit you until you try it. I think your husband might be one of those. His working pattern clearly doesn't suit him. Can't believe that work pattern is considered a good idea. It takes a while for the body to adjust to each one surely? Each work pattern type should be at least 6 days long, not 2 days each. He must be all over the place.

This job sounds like it's going to ruin his marriage, his family life and his time as a father. He needs to choose which aspects of his life is more important.

@EarthSight

Many people are are attracted to certain careers because they're interested in them, but those careers demand a certain type of lifestyle that isn't suitable for everyone. Just think about the type of people, men usually, who work on oil rigs. You might want to be a certain type of engineer.....but does everyone want to work or live on an oil rig in the middle of the sea??

Some people find this out too late as you can't always be sure something won't suit you until you try it. I think your husband might be one of those. His working pattern clearly doesn't suit him. Can't believe that work pattern is considered a good idea. It takes a while for the body to adjust to each one surely? Each work pattern type should be at least 6 days long, not 2 days each. He must be all over the place.

This job sounds like it's going to ruin his marriage, his family life and his time as a father. He needs to choose which aspects of his life is more important.

Tbh I think being a police officer ruins your family life whatever u do, because of the ptsd and the shifts and stuff like that, coming from the daughter of one but I’ve never dated one so idk