Too much

[witchinghour21]

Been with new boyfriend 3 months I really like him but he wants to spend every minute of every second of free time with me. When I ask him for a weekend off so I can do things with my children or friends separately it causes an atmosphere. He seems to think if I really liked him I would want to be with him all the time. Then I question myself do I really like him then is it me I just don't know anymore.

@witchinghour21

He says things like he will have nothing to do and be alone if he is not with me makes me feel terrible

Oh diddums. And just over three months ago when he wasn't seeing you? How did he manage all his life before you came along?

Nooooo. He's trying to control your every move, and guilt-tripping you into doing exactly what he wants you to do.

Get rid before it gets worse. Because it undoubtedly will.

He's a classic love bomber and a needy one at that. be very, very careful OP especially as you have children

@P1ainJanine

Love bombing. Emotional blackmail - trying to make you feel guilty for not doing his bidding, Control - trying to coerce you. If he will have nothing to do if he isn't with you at the weekend, he either has no hobbies or interests, or no other friends. Or he's a liar. Four red flags there, and it's only been three months. Run, and do not look back.

This.

He's a headcase.

Honestly OP, if you cannot see how wrong this is, I would be very nervous for you.

You are ripe for an abusive relationship.

A person with boundaries would cut him lose.

He sounds potentially a whole load of trouble.

You know him 5 minutes and he is utterly disrespectful of your life.

Dump him.

It's not he doesn't want me to see my friends and children but he wants to be there as well

For now. Until someone does something to offend/insult/embarrass him. Then he'll insist you shouldn't want to see them out of respect for him.

You shouldn't have even introduced him to your children yet and you should absolutely be able to have time alone with your friends.

@girlmom21

It's not he doesn't want me to see my friends and children but he wants to be there as well

For now. Until someone does something to offend/insult/embarrass him. Then he'll insist you shouldn't want to see them out of respect for him.

You shouldn't have even introduced him to your children yet and you should absolutely be able to have time alone with your friends.

Yup. Or he will start to tell you they said something bad about you when you left the room. And that really, they aren't your friends.

Or he will do something shitty and make it awkward to take him along in future so instead, you just won't go. Or like pp said, he will say they have a problem with him and so you are choosing them over him.

OR (especially if your friends are similar to him in the shit personality scale) he will go, and begin to try to turn them against you. Or start using them as flying monkeys. Eg: calling you crazy infront of them and being like 'remember that time she xyz, she is crazy isn't she?' And they will agree because of that example (which has probably been substantially modified or was just one one off event).

If they get in with your friends and family it makes it harder for you to get rid of them. Especially if they have only shown them the good stuff so they have no idea what he is really like.

@witchinghour21

He says things like he will have nothing to do and be alone if he is not with me makes me feel terrible

What the hell? Does he not have any friends? A job? A family? Interests other than you? What did he do before he met you? Sit in a room and stare at the wall?

This is ridiculous. Bin him.

Oh god, yuck, clinginess/ neediness is at best just very unattractive and at worst setting the groundwork to control you.