My exh had an affair and walked out. Our children were absolutely traumatised especially our son who has asd and daughter with anxiety. Our eldest child was sick of his moods and aggression so was relieved when he took off.
For the first yet we told our children that we simply fell out of love but loved them etc etc As advised by school psychologist .
A year later two of the children needed psychological intervention and the psychologist told me that in order to work with the children, they needed to know the truth . They were 11 and 13 at the time.
Up to that point, they blamed me for ' taking them away ' from Dad and family home. We have a second home near their schools And community so it was safer and easier to move there and the family home was huge, expensive to run and rural.
I am wondering now if it was the correct advice ? He wouldn't tell them that he had met and fallen in love with another woman which was why he left so I was advised to tell them which I did.
Your thoughts please?