Just back from meeting up with my ex...

[Xoxxoxoxoxo]

We only dated for a few months around 2 years ago. We broke up after a stupid argument over something irrelevant. His doing really.

Since about a year ago we’ve been back in brief contact... and eventually led from emails to phone calls to meeting up today.

From the moment I got in his car I just felt so at ease... the conversation flowed immediately, nice flirting but not overly talking about sex or anything like that.

We went for a casual dinner and coffee after. I didn’t want to leave, but I did. He drove me the 2 hours home.

It was just nice. We’ve planned to meet again next week.

Does getting back with an ex ever work? Am I seeing it through rose tinted glasses?

IME no. I've done it twice. (Different exes)
1st one we realised how much we had grown apart during our separation.

2nd time all the issues that caused the breakup came back. Despite him promising me when we got back together that he would talk about issues when they arose, he didn't.

Not normally, the reasons you argued before are likely to come back. See how it goes but if you break up again just call it quits for good.

It can do, but take it slow!

I know of 2 happily married couples who dated, broke up and reunited; one after a few months and one after a few years.

If your break up didn't involve cheating or abuse, I'd give it a go. What do you have to lose ?

Good Luck 💐

Why did you break up in the first place?

Does getting back with an ex ever work? Am I seeing it through rose tinted glasses?

It's not a one-size-fits-all answer. Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn't. Does it work for you?

I don't think there's any real scar tissue from "dated for a few months, several years ago, broke up over something stupid". You had more of a fling than a relationship; enough time has elapsed that you're not entangled in on-off-on-off drama; and no one betrayed the other's trust. Maybe it won't work out but if you feel good you have nothing to lose.

I did it once to be sure. I hadn't got over another man and didn't want another what if/if only to haunt me. It was the right decision as I knew very quickly I was done.

I wouldn’t go back if it was a long term relationship but you say you ‘dated’ for only a few months so you don’t have much history and it could possibly work out.

Me! Broke up after 18months-that kind of do or die time. Break up was just over 6months. He begged me back after realising his mistake. Married with 9months. Now 20years married and three children. Still happy.

Does getting back with an ex ever work?

It worked for me! Together for 2.5 years when we were younger. Split up for 15 years. I got married, he didn't, both had kids. Got back together after I left my now ExH. We've been together 11 years, married and 1 DC together.

Tbh, if you only dated for a few months, you’re pretty close to having a clean slate. It could work but bear in mind you broke up before over what you call a silly argument and it was mostly him who ended it. So it makes sense to proceed with caution but it sounds like there’s some unfinished business worth exploring here.

I dated a man for a few months, we broke up (remaining friends) and started dating again two years later - we’re now married. We always considered one another the one that got away, if anything our familiarities and past history gave us both the confidence to be very up front about what we wanted from the beginning, addressing the problems from the first time around before we committed to a relationship.

It worked for me. We broke up, dated and had relationships with other people. We split for a couple of years but remained friends. Just recently celebrated 40 years together.

It depends on whether the reason for the split has been resolved or not. You say you "broke up after a stupid argument over something irrelevant. His doing", so if you had the same disagreement again would it be handled better? If, for example, he had poor conflict resolution skills, has he since acquired them? If yes, then there's hope, but if not then the underlying reason for the split will just reappear.

I got back with an ex, and although it was great for a few weeks it wasn't sustainable because he point blank refused to acknowledge or discuss the hurt he'd caused me when he dumped me. It was "in the past, we need to move on", but that's not possible if it's not thrashed out.

Yeah I've gone back to an ex. Unfortunately he had not changed and the reasons we broke up were still present. It didn't last long. I guess it depends on the reasons why you broke up. If it was circumstantial, it may work. If it was cos he cheated, or bad behaviour, then most likely it won't.

I think going back to an old long term relationship where there were multiple underlying issues is a very bad idea but entirely different to a short relationship that ended at the first proper argument.

The only thing, I suppose, is why you were both prepared to let it go so easily?

What happens if a similar argument arises again?

Worked for us.

Me and my ex split up 12 years later we're back together, it's been nearly 2 years now and I can say it's alot better this time round.