I was 34 last week. I’ve been with my partner nearly a year. See him around 4 days a week usually. He’s 39. We both said we want marriage and kids however he recently said he would want to wait ‘a few years’ for kids as he is still climbing the career ladder. He said by 43 he would be ready. I said I wouldn’t want to wait that long and he said he would consider a couple of years in that case and understood where I was coming from. It was an ok chat and we both felt ok afterwards.
But there’s no real sign of things moving forwards. I would move in now. We both have our own homes and financial independence. There’s really no reason why one of us couldn’t live with the other. I haven’t raised this explicitly yet but fear he will say he’s not ready.
He’s told me he loves me, though I was the love of his life etc and I’m happy with him except for feeling unsure about the future.
Some friends have said just bide time a bit as it’s still only an 11 month relationship. Others have said to push him on this as I shouldn’t waste time. Im feeling so confused and sad and it’s starting to impact how I am around him.
Am I worrying too much? If I was much younger I would be so happy right now with him but i feel under pressure to have lots of plans in place.