I have a difficult relationship with my mother.
Growing up there was a lot of abuse from my father and she enabled it, also three of my siblings are the golden child and me and another sibling are the scapegoats.
Recently I went very low contact with her to protect my mental health, my mother is unfortunately very self absorbed, can’t deal with receiving any feedback and is afaik incapable of self reflection but she’s indeed very sensitive when it comes to how others treat her. I realized I would never get the love or support from her that I have longed for so long and decided that if I can’t have that, at least I can keep my life free of her drama by keeping her on arm lengths distance. Today she sent me out of the blue a message that says that she is sad that we can’t manage to have a good relationship apparently and she’s thinking of me every day. She also writes she doesn’t expect an answer but I know she does and might get upset / send abusive messages if I don’t respond. The thing is, my first thought was to send her a message that if she is sad about not having a good relationship with someone the first step would be asking that person how they feel and how we can work on having a better relationship (that’s what I would do…). But then I realized she wouldn’t take this well at all and it would probably end in a string of emotional messages from her and I just can’t deal with that. I actually just want to ignore this message. Any advice ?