Married for 3 years. 2 DCs (2 yrs old and 6 months)
My DH (42) just failed his driving test. He rang me so depressed. One word answers on phone. Not engaging.
I tried to encourage him and tell him to give it another go. But he believes it's because he's hopeless at everything. But he never practised. He has such low self esteem he doesn't try at anything. He recently shared he is dyslexic, and feels stupid all the time. His words.
I persuaded him to see a therapist and she says he has anxiety, OCD (he has developed ticks) and extreme self esteem issues.
I just don't know if I can do it any longer. I work full time from home, do lions share of childcare (I have childcare too for working girls), do all house admin, organise everything etc.
He does try to help e.g do cooking and he goes to work (which he hates but refuses to look for other jobs). But an example would be he said he will cook dinner and then we are missing an ingredient and he can't cope, gives up, all pointless, goes back to sofa.
I'm exhausted. I just can't bring myself to leave him. But I can't continue.
I took my marriage vows seriously. I want to help him. But I am so scared this just him. It feels like the more I do the more depressed and anxious he becomes. Do I just leave him to it? I feel like a working single mum with a slightly helpful teenage son who offers to help occasionally.