A white lie?

[Coconutstory]

I’ve been dating a man for 6 weeks. Feel really compatible and we get on amazingly. Never felt this kind of connection before but I’m not rushing into anything. I’m 45. He’s 40.

He is renovating a house and said he is staying with his mum until roof on etc. I’ve not been to the house yet.
He has mentioned that he gets on well with his ex wife. They split 2 years ago.
I asked if he stays at the ex wife’s and he said no he doesn’t. I specifically asked him and he denied it
I have found out tonight that he is sleeping at her house. He said on the sofa.
We’ve spent a whole weekend together and now this.
I don’t feel angry or upset that he sleeps there but I just feel sick.
I wish he had been honest and said.
Any advice?

The lie is a huge red flag - and living at the ex's ---- two years later! is another one.

Me and my ex live together until he can find somewhere to rent, we get on great and it works for now. It's definitely something more people are doing these days.

@CookPassBabtridge

Me and my ex live together until he can find somewhere to rent, we get on great and it works for now. It's definitely something more people are doing these days.

Do either of you lie about it if you're explicitly asked?

It does make me wonder who's house it really is that he's renovating...

It would make me wonder if he was renovating a house at all.

Do you know for sure he lives at his Mother's now? He has his own house also? Have you driven past those houses also?
Some men lie or exaggerate their circumstances in the beginning. Especially when it comes to property and assets they own.
I am willing to bet he runs back to his Mum's when they have a row, but is back in his Ex's bed as soon as she lets him. Children are always an excuse for the guy here - using them to get back in his Ex's bed and as a handy reason to you.
Been on your side unfortunately. Good luck 🍀

Some men lie or exaggerate their circumstances in the beginning. Especially when it comes to property and assets they own.

So do some women.

That is a big, giant lie.

An example of a white lie is anything to do with planning secret birthday treats, romantic getaways and telling your kids their drawing is amazing.
Your dude is a liar- the bad kind.

I have found out tonight that he is sleeping at her house. He said on the sofa

Aye right...

I'd be wondering why, after 2 years, he still needs to sleep at hers because he's supposedly renovating a house somewhere else. Doesn't he have any other family or friends he can stay with?
Have they actually split up at all?

I'd dump him. 6 weeks in and he's lied about where he was staying, supposedly at his Mum's but actually at his ex(?)-wife's, supposedly on her sofa.
And 6 weeks it in you didn't trust him enough so did a drive-by his ex's house and saw his car there.

This relationship is going absolutely nowhere

She wont be the ex wife he is still with her as husband and wife in every sense , hes will be sleeping in the marital bed not the sofa.
It's far too early In for all this meesing around. Dump ,block ,delete you are worth much more my lovely.