Should I end it!!

[Pterri]

Hi first time posting, im 38 I've been with my partner for 13 years he's 55 we have a 10year son together, after my son was born our sex life pretty much stopped due yo him never making an effort i really tryed as i wanted another child i got pregnant very quick however I had miscarriage after that i just couldn't seem to get pregnant again we both had test and he has a very low sperm count. We couldn't have ivf as my bmi was to high i was working on that, but my partner started to suffer with depression and erectile disfunction he had a stressful job we worked through it he changed jobs he now has a very unstressed job. I'm now 38 and feel like its my last chance to get pregnant our sex life is far from good and its always me who has to ask for it and if he fancies a beer its a no cus it just doesn't work when he has a drink. We won't fit the criteria for ivf now. Ive asked him about useing a spearm donor he totally refused saying it wouldn't be fair on him. I told him i want to split up as we have such a boring relationship and ive started using an online sperm donor. I feel really guilty as he has no family or proper friends. I don't know what to do now I'm faceing being a single mum and pregnant. The donor doesn't want any thing to do with the child if I get pregnant. Should I stop seeing the donor?

Yes obviously
Why are you so desperate for another child? Are you pregnant already?

If you don’t love your partner then you should split up but the sperm donor/affair thing is a huge mistake

The sperm donor thing is gross - you're sleeping with him??!! And cheating on your husband? You're basically having an affair because you want a baby. You seem like you sont love your husband or even like him much. So yes, you should leave him. Your husband, that is. And probably the sperm donor? Unless you want to have another baby so desperately that you're hoping to raise the baby as a single mum?

Is this real? What a wonderful way to bring a child into this world

What in God's name is an online sperm donor? Do you have contact or does he post it to you? So many questions.

I think you should drop the baby trying for now and sort out your marriage or negotiate with him to separate and concentrate on the child you do have

Yes, you should stop seeing the donor. Life will be hard enough for you as a single mother with one child, never mind two! The relationship with your partner isn't going very well, and anyway maybe he doesn't want another child at the age of 55! He's getting towards the age when a person wants to relax, put their feet up and enjoy themselves, not start the long haul of childcare again! He'd be 75 when the child is 20!

I think you need to leave him, you don’t sound happy at all and to be honest, you probably shouldn’t have got with a man so much older if kids were important to you. I know that’s easier said than done, but 55 is really pushing it, I think.

I’m not sure what you mean by a sperm donor - is this a man you’re having sex with, or does he post you sperm?!