yet another row

[fuckthissideways]

I know how stupid this is btw.

My relationship with my DP is on it's last legs.

We live in a medium sized flat and have 2 couches, one of which is knackered.

I don't mean like Mrs.Bucket, oww the lace trim is a bit worn on that. I mean knackered. DP says and always has said himself that it is knackered.

This morning we talked and agreed this couch would go and we were going to do other stuff with the room and the space where it is now.

Just half an hour ago we were going to watch a show on tv and then go to bed. He suddenly kicks off about how I sit on the couch?! Says I ruined it and I will ruin any other couch because of the way I sit.

Because I am just so worn down and tired today I said "ok, I will sit differently then".

Cue him turning the tv off, slamming the remote down and storming off to bed in silence.

I know he no longer loves me. I know ltb. I am making arrangements. But, still. It doesn't feel nice to be so despised.

Don't buy anything with this guy. Don't . Make arrangements now.

@Anordinarymum I know, I'm getting ready to go. It's just depressing to be treated so horribly.

@Anordinarymum Like an old knackered couch he has wanted shot of for ages is worth more than I am.

No. He's just being horrible. They talk about ''grey rock' on here. Maybe you should try it

@Anordinarymum I currently do just try and live everyday like he isn't here or he is a housemate.

[quote fuckthissideways]@Anordinarymum I currently do just try and live everyday like he isn't here or he is a housemate.[/quote]
So why buy a new sofa? He sounds like a bastard. I hope you get away from him soon

@Anordinarymum This is why it's so stupid, we weren't even talking about getting a new sofa. Just getting rid of this old one. So I think he was saying I ruined it (not true I don't think) and I will ruin the other one, or any other sofa we get.

He was being nasty. Are you ending the relationship? Maybe he feels like he has lost control and is lashing out.

@fuckthissideways I appreciate this might be a bit off-topic, but how can you sit on a sofa in such a way as to ruin it? I sort of thought that the whole point of sofas was to be sat upon?

And yes, I think this might be my first ever ltb. You are worth so much more than this.

@Anordinarymum We've kind of been in crisis talks for a bit. We've been together a long time. He relies on me financially, although does work.

@Fillybuster I sit with my legs to the side and my (bare) feet ruined the couch.

No idea.

He relies on you financially, so he is going to be in trouble when you split which is why he is behaving like this.

You deserve better. The couch argument is a cheap shot, and if it were not the couch it would be something else. You just have to stay strong and know it's not your fault.

@Anordinarymum thank you, I am trying to be strong. I'd feel upset if anyone said that to me to be honest. I'm upset so may not be making total sense, it's not what he said even, it was the anger with which he said it. Like I'm such a terrible person or something.

It's the loss of control.. feeling impotent. Try not to take it personally. It will probably get worse. You need to be swift and then block him from your life

I’m guessing you bought the couch

@Justilou1 No, it's his couch. I suggested getting rid of it, and using the other one (currently covered in random stuff). He agreed. Now it turns out my feet are the problem.

I know how ridiculous it sounds. It's not about the couch, It's how much he seems to loathe me rather than just not loving me.

I honestly wish he would just cheat on me. I've even planned what I would say in my head! "All the best to the two of you, I'd best be off."

That would be far too convenient

Chuck him out with the couch and spend your hard earned money on yourself not on this ungrateful cunt.

How you sit on the couch ruined it - are you a hippo, elephant perhaps?

Wtaf.

What a fkg idiot.

He must he truly struggling to manufacture criticisms if he's coming up with things like that.

Abd he relies on you financially?! While giving you that sort of jip?

Mayve you can arrange for the people who take the couch away to take him too. Sitting on it the "right way" of course.

You don't need him to cheat tk justify getting rid of him.

Why do women always feel like there's a court that reviews the reasons people end relationships... no-one gives a fk after the initial surprise/minor gossip.

It's kind of like the "if he doesn't beat you or cheat on you, you can't leave" thing. Yeah, you can. It's up to you.

Tell him to pick up his couch and walk.