Being in a relationship is fucking expensive!

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Been single for years and now I'm in a "under 1 year" relationship with someone. I used to save loads... I still do but I've noticed I never have as much money as I used to, I've been watching him and my financial system like a hawk to make sure he isn't freeloading (he isn't). I spent most of 2019 and 2020 doing fuck all. Now it's (50/50) meals out, drinks out, weekends away etc. I've told him we are pulling back and just having nights in for a bit now. It's fucking pricey does anyone else notice this?!

Wait until you have kids…..

Fuck that! 🚫

Lol . Nights in seemed to be all I did the first year with my DH. We must have saved a fortune. ( although I did end up pregnant,so maybe not !)

Don't go 50/50. It's his job to pay for that stuff.

Do you want to be 100 & say, I wish that I had done X, Y, Z ?

Some people don't have a partner or friend to go for drinks, food, weekends away

Make the most of your life every day !

Go and enjoy yourself, I say! Its been a bloody boring 18 months, get out there!

It was at first for sure. Covid curtailed our spending (especially petrol, we lived 150 miles apart and I got "stuck" at his for 6 weeks

Enjoy the expensive honeymoon period while you're in it! It won't last forever (unfortunately)

[quote Rocaille]Don't go 50/50. It's his job to pay for that stuff.

[/quote] Sounds fair. What's her 'job'? Blowjobs on demand and doing all the housework?

Dating is as cheap or expensive as you want to make it. If you feel like it's getting too expensive, just talk to him and suggest you both rein it in a bit

Dating is expensive to begin with, but only stays expensive if you're either dating someone who doesn't respect your boundaries, or you state your boundaries on MN/elsewhere rather than to your date. Both of those situations are red flaggy.

Please ignore any comments saying you shouldn't go 50/50. Ridiculous and unhelpful.

I noticed this a bit in the early dating years - meals out and regular cinema trips etc. But so long as you can afford it, why not? Enjoy it. It will soon calm down a bit (if you want it to).

[quote Rocaille]Don't go 50/50. It's his job to pay for that stuff.

[/quote] Can you sum up the podcast? It's an hour and a half long.

Why is it his job?

I agree OP.

We didn't always go 50/50 and often he paid, but then next time I would get the bill as I didn't want him paying all the time. But he drank expensive wine and I don't. And he lived quite far from me so it was flights to see each other etc.

My bank account did take a hammering. Even a meal at home cost more as I'd get posher stuff in than I normally would.

I'm single again now so it's having a breather.

It is expensive! Like you I prefer paying my own way. But it's been a rough time lately so i really do not begrudge us eating out.

Agreed Op.