Please be nice as feeling fragile.
Long story short is both wife and I have been under a lot of stress over past few years. Things came to a head and we argued. Both of us in overwhelm have said and done very hurtful things to one another.
During the awful period I rang a woman's aid type group for help and support. They said I was being financially abused and what my wife was doing was coercive control.
She explained the reasons why she did what she did..she paid for our holiday with money and also other things she did.
I have apologised to her and explained I went into overwhelm and found the situation difficult to cope with, which is why I said and did things like contact solicitor for advise etc. She doesn't seem to acknowledge the impact of her own actions towards me.
Anyway, wife and I are still separated and living in same house. Both decided to draw aline under everything and focus on bringing up dd6. Which we are.
When we were going through the upset I lent on my sister and friend for support. Wife cannot get over the fact I told sister and friend that she was being financially abusive and coercive towards me. She said I should never have said that about her.
She is a very private person who has high morals and does not speak to anyone about her private life. Whereas I am complete opposite. I wear my heart on my sleeve and have to get things off my chest.
We have been together nearly 30 years and have never said had a cross word with one another.
How do I seek forgiveness from her. I now time is a great healer. I was thinking of writing a letter to her.
Any constructive advice would be helpful. Thank you