Partner has become selfish in bed

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But was always generous until lately.
He does not have a lot of energy and is unfit generally but he would always ensure my pleasure before his.
Lately I find he is happy to let me do the honours so to speak and can then simply drop off.
He is more tired and stressed than usual at the moment but for the last two occasions we slept in the same bed, he showed little or no interest unless I was touching him etc.
Kissing and affection has also taken a back seat.
I understand stress and medically he lacks energy but I feel rejected and unattractive.We normally enjoy an equal and satisfying sex. I am asking myself if he is losing interest in me?
We are together 14 months and see each other at weekends.

Is he depressed? Or if you’ve only been together 14 months then maybe at first the sex was to ‘win you over’ so to speak, and the way he is acting now is what he is usually like.

He's not depressed but has anxiety especially surrounding change , which he is going through at the moment.
He has always got satisfaction from my satisfaction but not recently.
It's all about his pleasure.
I know it's only been twice in a week but It stings and that won't work for me in the long term.
Any advice?
Does it sound like he has lost interest ?

It does sound like he may be showing his true colours. Or possibly, there's someone else.

Porn?

Sorry. I probably didn't post enough there 😅

Not suggest that as an alternative. I mean, maybe he's started using porn so he doesn't have the energy for real sex.

Possible porn use now and again.
No other woman to the very best of my knowledge. We can never be sure I suppose but absolutely no sign irl or on line . He is very publically with me , online. Self confessed laziest man he knows.
Can be selfish but then terribly generous in other ways.
Distinct lack of energy, breathlessness due to medical condition. Unfit.
How do I approach it?

You can start sentences with 'I really like it when you do this...'

How do you approach it? Well, next time you have sex you make him pleasure you before you pleasure him. If he tries to come before you're satisfied you stop him and remind him you want to be sorted first. If he isn't bothered about foreplay you simply stop him penetrating you and tell him why. Communication. If he comes before you then rolls over and ignores your needs you need to complain. Pull him up on selfishness.

Thanks for such a great response.We are both very open and honest in communicating our needs so I will talk to him when he is less anxious. He generally is so generous in bed but I don't want to creat a habit where he feels his needs trump mine and he feels that his pleasure is more important than mine.
I believe it's laziness. I have been far too giving amd putting his needs first. Time
To reclaim equality!

Find a time when he isn't so tired?