How is single life as a parent

[Kadia92]

Hi everyone ive posted earlier today but wanted some Real advice on single parent life.

Ive decided im going to separate and would like to know how is it being a single parent

Im so scared to move on as single. Anxiety is all over the place.

Will i manage, will kids ask about there dad alot, financially if im on maternity?

X5

How old are they? Will they still spend time with both of you?

I do 50/50 with my ex and it works. You both get quality time with the children and time to yourself. The kids are generally happy with the arrangement too.

3 hun.. Yes i want to be with her she can drr dad weekends. I haven't thought about this arrangement yet as his ignoring me anyways @LucyLocketsPocket

Depends everyone’s situation is different, my ex is not involved at all so that’s very different from someone who has 50/50.

We did EoW. He was pretty unreliable. I’d never given up my job so was fine financially. Being a single parent was much easier than being with an asshole.

Mine was an abusive arsehole and has never been fully involved but has them every other weekend. I won't lie it's been tough as I had to get it legally done in court. But that was the tough stuff. Him.

The parenting has been fine. Soooo much better. I love spending time with my children, dancing to our own tune. I've never bad mouthed dad but if he says things I just reply with "well people say silly things when they're angry and daddy must be upset". They're used to their dad being an idiot now, it took a year but went surprisingly fast and they just ignore his outbursts about mum. They're aware I'm stable, loving and always there. We have a great relationship and they talk to me. Started dating a wonderful old friend who I've now married. I still insist on time with my kids alone, they need to know I'm all for them at times with no distractions.

Best thing I ever did.

I find getting weekends to myself gives me good downtime, though I do miss them. It's important to make plans to do things you enjoy without the dc.
My kids were initially upset, eldest was 7 when we split, youngest 4. It's now been over 18m & we are all in a better routine after teething problems. School were supportive.
I know they'd prefer it if we all lived together, but they Seem to accept the situation now. We talk openly about feelings, look at photos & I let them know frequently that I'm there for them no matter what. I talk positively about their dad & we have worked hard to have a friendly relationship, so that contact is amicable.
I have my dc one weekend in 3 & they live with me during the week.
Good luck

Mine didn't even notice he'd gone, he sees them a maximum of 1.5hrs a week (by his choice, and the kids don't ask for more either).

It does mean that I have very little downtime without them (as when they're at school/childminder I'm working/doing chores I can't/don't want to do with them there), but on the other hand it's like a massive weight has been lifted off me now I'm not also running around after ex, so on balance, it is better (and in a few years I'll start to be able to leave them in the house, and a few years after that, leave them in the house in the evening)