New relationship hpv

[Bythecooker]

Hello, I have met a new man, very early days but seems nice. However, earlier this year I had an abnormal smear with hpv and abnormal cells. I want to tell him this before we become sexually active. Has anyone told a new boyfriend this and how please?

Joeyandjanicesdayoffun thank you, this was exactly what I was after. I'm really glad it worked out well for you and I hope it has cleared up for you now.

@EarthSight I had a letter saying they had detected hpv and I had abnormal cells that they wanted to look at. I went to hospital and they put my foof on a tv screen and said no further action. Next smear said no hpv detected. It can lay dormant for years and years.

I didn't have warts or anything like that. Like I said we've only been with each other in almost 20 years.

Taken from Superdrug website @EarthSight

Gosh I'm glad I didn't speak to you at the time otherwise I'd have been accusing my husband of all sorts 

You can be infected with HPV without being sexually active – as HPV spreads easily through skin-to-skin contact, it is possible to be infected with HPV without having sex. Prolonged contact with infected skin, such as holding hands, may cause transmission of the virus.

DrFoxtrot thank you, that is also reassuring.

With each of the partners I did different things, text, phone, face to face. I can't remember how I worded it but probably started with mentioning my abnormal smear and talking about HPV from there, and then talking about the warts. With my last two partners, it was a case of saying that my body had cleared the virus but I was discussing it for full disclosure. I felt more comfortable then that I didn't feel like I was hiding anything. It's a personal decision, it felt right to me to mention it.

Thank you @DrFoxtrot that is how I feel really, that even though there is mixed opinion on whether to say something I feel like I would want to and I guess that means no sex until I feel comfortable enough to bring it up which is not a bad idea anyway, it gives more time to see if it's got legs anyway!

I'm glad you posted OP. Men can't get tested for this can they?

I think there's no point disclosing it I think if you haven't really read up on it it's really alarming I rember getting a letter and was so distressed but once I spoke to the nurse she explained that it's really common and they haven't always screened you for HPV.

It can cause penile cancer so does affect men too.