Stupid Question Gets A Stupid Answer

[ashleigh34]

How do I leave?

I can stand my ground with everyone else except my partner. I’m not scared of him in any way, we’re just bad communicators - clearly.

There’s been a lot of goings on but I feel like I’d be much better off on my own… we don’t communicate, I would struggle a bit financially but would cope, there’s no romance, we do nothing together, I’m responsible for most household chores & child care, I’m supposed to be grateful that he pays for rent & food - pretty much all he contributes… there’s just no team work. This is not how I see my life…

Just needed somewhere to vent… and if anyone has any advice or experience of this, I’d be grateful for your help.

You just tell him it’s not working and you go. Or he goes. Do you rent/own/whose name is on the mortgage/tenancy? Are you just in a stupor of indecision? You can just tell him.

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You’ve ignored the reply above your bump, did you dislike the advice? There’s not any other solution

Are you asking about the practicalities of leaving, or the emotional journey to get there and make the decision?

Yeah, I’d say more the emotional journey. As much as he clearly doesn’t respect my feelings, it’s a big conversation and decision.
I guess it’s just biting the bullet. I have plenty of opportunities and always back out at the last minute which frustrates me.

I hear you. I delayed leaving my marriage for far too long because I didn't have a "good enough" reason to leave. Newsflash - being unhappy is a good enough reason.

Have you totally got the ick for him, can you not imagine ever enjoying sex with him again? If so, end it now, it's the kindest thing for both of you.