Separate beds

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Just that really. DH and I have been sleeping in separate beds for nearly 6 months now due to his snoring. Every night I would be disturbed and have to move into spare bedroom so disgusted it easier to just sleep in there instead. I actually enjoy the whole bed to myself and have started thinking about making the room into a 'proper' bedroom with nice furniture etc. However there's something that's niggling at me that this isn't normal??

We have 2 master bedrooms, decorated to our own tastes and with only our things in them.
Happily married with a toddler.

I have a parasomnia and DH is a light sleeper that works shifts. It’s lovely having our own rooms. It’s only in relatively recent history that sharing rooms came about. Anyone with money had their own rooms, only the poor shared.

Very happily Married. We start off in the same room and cuddle, chat etc etc and then I decamp to the spare room as his snoring is so horrific. I crawl back into our bed for early morning cuddle. I wish it wasn’t this way but even our next door neighbours can hear him through their bedroom wall!!

My DH and I have had separate beds for years. We both snore like chainsaws, and honestly, separate rooms has saved our marriage!

This could be one of my ideal scenarios. My DH can be rather messy quite often and although I make sure it is kept round his side of the bed the idea of having a nice, tidy haven of my own is quite appealing.

I'd love my own room. He could then be almost as messy as he liked in his.

I don’t know why we didn’t have separate rooms years ago - I suppose it’s because something must be wrong if you don’t share a bed - Ive suffered years of poor sleep due to his snoring. Separate rooms is the way to go. I can still hear him snoring sometimes from the opposite side of the house.

Thank you everyone! I feel so much better knowing I'm not on my own and am going to look at decorating properly now!

I think this is more "normal" than we realise. Sleep is vital. You're in that room anyway, have it as comfortable for yourself as possible and enjoy it.

I say go for it OP You can make the room a Princesses' paradise with lovely things in. I often move into the spare room when my partner disturbs me and I can't sleep. I can't change it round because it is my Grandson's room when he stays here and he is here two three nights per week or I would have done just this