Help please?

[Depressedlady]

Hi, I would love some help as I'm feeling desperately low.

I know I don't love my bf anymore. I've not been honest with myself (or him). We have been together 14yrs and have 2 children aged 4 and 6. We are due to get married in 2022.

I just don't know how to tell him as he's so excited. I know it will break his heart.

But the thought of telling him is making me feel physically ill. I haven't got the courage. Do I just get married for his and our childrens benefit?

I'm so torn 😔

You have been together a very long time. Do you think Relate or some kind of counselling would help? Even if it doesn’t mend your relationship they could help with communicating the issues & mediate the end?

Bottom line is he deserves real love and so do you.

@womaninthistown

Thanks for the reply.

We have had a rocky few years and I've began to resent him. I care for him but I don't enjoy any intimacy with him at all & I know in my heart I don't love him and want to end it.

But I suffer with avoidance personality disorder, meaning I really struggle with communication and expressing my feelings.

I feel I am just doing all I can to avoid telling him, but I'm beggining to feel depressed 😔

It’s really hard to start The Conversation especially if they are kind but it’s right (and kind) to let them go.

This might sound brutal but he will get over it & meet someone new eventually. I doubt he wants a pity marriage.