Cheating arse wipe

[Littlemissprincess01]

Hi.
I will try and keep this relatively short but i could really do with some advice.
Was in a relationship for a couple of months, got pregnant, but i kicked him out when I was 16 weeks as had a gut feeling he was cheating. We carried on sleeping with each other a few times right up till July / August. Ive just had our baby 2 weeks ago. I now have the proof yes he was with someone else still is. He has stated they are not together he wants to be with me, loves me and wants the family. He has stayed overnight, I now know he is still with the girl and doesn't want to leave her as its a roof over his head and he doesn't want to lose it if he comes home to me and it does not work. She knows he has a baby with me and is telling him to take me to court for access. She doesn't know I have allowed him to see the baby he doesn't show up on his set days due to her.
I think i should tell/ show her what hes really like, but part of me thinks nah let them crack on. Some wise words please

Stop sleeping with him.
Focus on yourself and your baby.
Put in a claim for child maintenance.

It's doubtful she would believe a word you say about him; she may well think you're just jealous. Let them get on with it - but time to stop the overnight stays, I think.

Knittedfairies this was my thought she wouldn't believe me. I have blocked him, and told him to take me to court. His excuse for not seeing the baby today was he has no fuel, but has plastered all on fb photos of his full tank 😂 that was turning point for me

Stop engaging with him, stop sleeping with him, put a claim in for CMS.
You will never trust him you have a 2 week old baby to priotise not play games with this cheating idiot
Leave them to it

Let him take you to court. Keep proof of him not showing up/being unreliable.

No court will force you to be separated from a newborn for any length of time so you'd have to facilitate contact anyway if he did get access. I'm sure she'd love that!

Make sure he's paying child maintenance.

Don't put him on the birth certificate!

Thanks for the advice. I already wasn't putting him on the birth certificate. As I don't trust him. We are both late 30's you would think a grown man wouldn't play these games x

Might be worth reading up on narcissistic triangulation. It's when they play two women off against one another and often yoyo back and fourth between them.

Get wise to his tricks and protect yourself!

I agree with the advice given so far but We are both late 30's you would think a grown man wouldn't play these games the same goes for you so you need to stop sleeping with him, put in the maintenance claim and get on with being a mum.

I've been single mother for longer than i haven't and I love it

Yes I agree, he can only play the games if you engage.
Look up grey rock technique.