What would you do?

[LemonadeLimes]

My previous relationship ended at the start of the year after I found out that he was married. An awful shock. I ended it immediately & haven’t seen or spoken to him since. I blocked him on SM & deleted his number (I didn’t block because I just didn’t want his number on my phone at all).

Yesterday I received a message from him apologising, saying he loved and missed me, wants to meet to apologise & explain in person. I have zero romantic interest in him but should I tell his wife? Or just delete & forget it ever happened? She’s the one who made me aware he was married.

What's the betting his wife has kicked him out, and he's looking for somewhere else to park his slippers?

I'd reply telling him to get lost, and then block his number.

Haha! I haven’t considered that. Might be a tight squeeze with my new boyfriend ;)

I would like to tell him to get lost permanently. Not sure how to word it. I want it to be cold and emotionless so at least I leave it with dignity. I feel like it’s hanging over me at the moment.

Then just say get lost and block.

I would tell the wife

Tell the wife! I once had an ex continuously harass me while he was in another relationship- I contacted her and kept a log of everything he had done. Felt SO good

So, his wife knows. In that case nothing more to do, unless you fancy sticking it to him and let him know you've moved on with someone else, are happy, and couldn't care less about him now - he deserves that, but it's you choice.

@Opentooffers
His wife might have given him another chance and he's trying to start the affair back up!

Fuckboy looking for fuck.
Ignore and block him.

If you just want to hurt him, ignore. That will hurt him more than anything.

If you're up for a bit of drama, screenshot it to his wife. But only do this if you're sure you can cope with the fallout.

The wife probably couldn't give a toss about him any more and probably has realised what a cad he is.
I'd have no words just go straight to block number.

Or things have started to "quiet down" at home and he's comfortable sneaking around again.

Please let her know; she deserves to be aware of what he's up to currently. And you deserve to enjoy your new relationship; telling her will encourage the cheater to leave you alone.

Kudos to you for ending it immediately.

I'd not respond and block him.

Thanks guys. I’m not going to block him because to hell with having that man’s details on my phone. I want to let it all go & for him to disappear.

I know she’s still with him so I think I’m going to contact her. We managed to end our conversation on a civil note after she initially thought I knew he was married.

Two birds, one stone. She knows what he’s like & he won’t dare contact me again. I hope.

Thank you

Just ask "Whose number is this please?" And ignore subsequent texts.

I'd opt for not telling his wife at all. This happened with my friend, finding out her partner was married. The wife wanted to know and she was hounded to death off the wife and her friends threatening her. Now she's had to get a harrassment order on them.

Just block and forget them. Not worth the drama it will bring to you.

Best response is not to respond!! Don’t think anything is more insulting than to be totally ignored .

I wouldn't tell his wife, I wouldn't respond and I would block him.

When you choose not to have his number in your phone via a block list, you are choosing to have him in your phone.

Can you respond with 'stop contacting me, if I hear from you again (that includes responding to this text) I'll tell your wife what a cheating scum bag you are'

Thank you everyone. I get the block him comments but he has my email addresses, my address, work info etc. I think he will just appear in another way & I just want him to go away. My life has thankfully moved on after therapy & lots of Malbec!

I have replied and gone with @bigbaggyeyes‘s suggestion. ‘Please do not contact me again. Any further messages with be forwarded to XXXX (wife’s name).’ He’s read it and nothing 🙏

I genuinely don’t understand your reluctance to block this man. You can block him on everything. Every single communication platform. You’ve told him not to contact you, now remove his means to do so.

Then keep on living your best life.