My partner has left me today

[Life4livingnk]

Hi

I would just like someone too talk too really maybe for some advice.

My partner left me today , he says we don’t have enough sex, we don’t live together but we do have a baby son who is 9 months old.
I love sex with him I never turn him down. We just live separately and he never stays over or asks me too stay at his, he’s welcome too stay here with us anytime and I’ve said we should live together then we’d have as much sex as we wanted.
He won’t but blames me for the lack of sex!
I don’t get it! I think maybe he’s just looking for someone else now and it’s an excuse? Don’t you ?
I feel sick thinking that he’s moved on! He says he’s hasn’t and loves me ! I think this is unlikely.
Pffft who knows ! I don’t really have anyone too talk about any of this too.

I’d be grateful for anyone too chat or give me an opinion

Thanks I’m advance
Nx

oh it must be so tough with the little one as well. Does he get involved with little one and help you out?

I'm guessing that he doesn't want to be a committed family man and he is a coward and is using this as an excuse . Things do work out for the best and however sad and upset you are right now you will find a better life than this .

Why don’t you live together when you have a baby together?

It does sound like an excuse and he's blaming you, he just doesn't want commitment

I'm sorry you're going through this but he sounds like a waste of space.

He's not really your partner.
He never has been.
He's just the father of your child

By all means ensure he contributes towards your child but make your own life . He's not there for you.

Do you find it difficult that he doesn’t stay over? I think that would be a passion killer in itself as you have pointed out.

I’d cut your losses and you’ll meet someone with who is supportive and more family oriented in the future. Don’t get dragged into a fwb kind of set up - unless that’s something what you want.

Is there a reason he never stays over Op?
When your baby was a newborn he didn't offer to stay the odd night?

@Sunshineandflipflops

Why don’t you live together when you have a baby together?

Exactly! We are both independent but I'd live with him. He just makes excuses.

@Holshicup

Is there a reason he never stays over Op? When your baby was a newborn he didn't offer to stay the odd night?

Not really no, we live round the corner from each other, so he goes home. It's pathetic isn't it

What’s the reason you don’t live together? The no sex excuse seems to be just that but he’s very disengaged from you and your baby and not at all committed. Has he ever done any parenting? How long were you together?

Sorry you’re having a hard time. Focus on yourself and your baby. Open a claim for child support tomorrow if he’s got a job.

@Youknownothingsnow

Do you find it difficult that he doesn’t stay over? I think that would be a passion killer in itself as you have pointed out.

I’d cut your losses and you’ll meet someone with who is supportive and more family oriented in the future. Don’t get dragged into a fwb kind of set up - unless that’s something what you want.

I'm
Used too living on my own tbh. But yeah it would be nice too live as a family. I have older children from a previous relationship so I think maybe that's why we have never moved in together.
I mean how can you get close when you partner goes home ? It's weird

Move on. He isn’t and never has been committed to you. Did you plan a child while living apart? I think he’s probably just making up any excuse. This really isn’t about sex. He’ll come grovelling back in a few weeks no doubt, don’t let him.

Hopefully he is providing financial support for your child.

@AnneLovesGilbert

What’s the reason you don’t live together? The no sex excuse seems to be just that but he’s very disengaged from you and your baby and not at all committed. Has he ever done any parenting? How long were you together?

Sorry you’re having a hard time. Focus on yourself and your baby. Open a claim for child support tomorrow if he’s got a job.

We have known each other for many years, been together 2 and a half years. We just never moved in together because we both have our homes and I have older kids.

It's a ridiculous relationship really isn't it.

If he is only round the corner at least you can be fairly sure he's not going home to another woman.

Personally I don't think you need to share a roof to have a successful relationship, however to have never spent a night at his or visa versa, especially with a baby is a different kettle of fish altogether.

I have a feeling you will be more than fine without him 💐

Thanks for the advice all of you.
Crazy when I actually read what I've written and all your comments how you see it in a different light... I think I needed that.
He does give me cash for our son and does look after him too.
I think he's just got commitment issues very selfish and come too think of it he's not that much fun 🤨. I try and make it work just so our son has both parents really. I have a completely separate life from him. I think I'm just sad because I know it has too be over and I'm in my late 30's and just wanted a family life I suppose.

Hey Ho
Onwards and upwards 🙂

Thanks again too you all

You will be fine. You are a strong, independent woman!
Ultimately your parter is the loser - more fool him!