Mother interference

[Haggismum11]

My Mum had my son for a few hours today. For the last couple of years she hasn't taken him much due to covid. I am a single Mum, sons Dad lives near us but didn't even remember mu sons birthday and for Xmas he bought him toys for 3-4 he is 9!!.
I ralk to my mum every day but she doesn't come to my house cos she says it's messy.
I have fibromyalgia, arthritis, anxiety and severe depression. I get no support from my family, they say I just need to give myself a shake.
Anyway, she had him today and when she came to drop him off I was sleeping ( I don't sleep well at night and hadn't slept for 3 days). The door bell woke me up and I went to answer the door. 1st thing my Mum said to me what " what are you on" "what have you taken". I said nothing I have just woke up. I do take medication prescribed by a doctor that cab make me sleep deeper. She threatened to take my son away with her. I just told her to leave.
I furious, luckily my son didn't hear it.
What should I som

What should I do

I think you should wait then talk to her rationally when you have both calmed down
Tell her you need support not criticism , remind her about the affects of your medication and ask her if she could do anything to help to give you all a happier family environment
That might help you get some rest , tidy up if it is messy ( it's your home though , have it how you like it ) improve your relationship, help you cope as a single parent a bit more as you won't feel quite so alone

You've got a lot on your plate with a crap ex so be proud of what you do and just give her the chance to hear you out .. no shouting screaming , just talk

Thanks. I will try to talk to her but its not easy. She thinks everything should be perfect and tidy at all times. I have had cancer twice and spent a year bedridden before an operation on my spine to allow me to walk again. I know have fibromyalgia, depression , anxiety and arthritis. Every day is a struggle but the don't offer to help. When I was self isolating with my son last year I had to beg them to bring me food.
My house may not be perfect but it's lived in and happy. I raise my son alone and he is a lovely, kind, generous little boy who I'd incredibly intelligent. I am so proud of him.
I am sick of being judged by my family.