How often do you expect to talk to your boyfriend?

[MarylinMonrue]

Just that really, how often would you expect to someone to want to talk to you at differing stages of a relationship? I know everyone's needs are different but what are yours personally?

I don't know. Texts every couple of days, phone call once a week, see them once or twice a week?

Any more than that and it gets in the way of life. But I don't see boyfriends as 'other halves' and still like to keep a life independent of them. I wouldn't want to be with someone who wanted more than that either.

We talk everyday. He rings on his way to and from work and we FaceTime every evening to say goodnight

Together 8yrs. We don't live together. We message a couple of times a day. See him Fri-Sun when he stays at mine. We rarely speak on the phone.

I'm just dating but I guess:

Message at least once a day
Quick FaceTime at night every now and then
Spend the day/night together once a week at the weekend if we are both free or a quick evening together during the week if we are not
Holiday/weekends away together after 4-6 months together if we still like each other by then!

I prefer everyday contact personally, it doesn’t have to be full on, but something warm and interested not just ‘wyd?’ Type stuff and maybe a call every couple of days. If I left it two to three days between it would mean I wasn’t really into them.

whatever suits You

Long time since I had a boyfriend but, depending on how intense, I guess once a day or every couple of days.

Around 3 days our of 7.
(See him two of those days and maybe an evening phonecall half way between them).

I have a boyfriend, we dont live together, we talk daily, depending on what is going on in our lives it can be 5 or 6 times a day with texts or calls. See each other twice a week when our schedule allows. Usually its at least a call a day with the odd text.

Together several years, live down the road from each other. Daily phone calls, often more than once a day. We dont text, we pick up the phone and talk to each other. See each other 3 times a week, occasionally 4 times.

DH and I spoke everyday when we first got together - just a general back and forth throughout the day and we saw each other every other weekend. Facetime maybe 1-2 times a week for rude purposes only cos we were long distance.

As we got more established (6 months onward) we'd generally have an evening call 5 nights out of 7, unless one of us was busy. Just for 5 minutes normally to say goodnight, but sometimes for longer.

After that we'd call each other while we were commuting in the morning, at lunch, whenever really - we just like talking to each other haha. And messages in between, nothing exciting just general chat.

Now we've lived together 6 years and we still call one another at lunchtimes if we're not together, and message some of the day.

I think there's an age/generational thing - my mum for example would think it was insane to be messaging someone back and forth all the time, but I have a handful of group chats that are active 80% of the day, so messaging my partner regularly isn't a particularly surprising thing. I don't see it as a particularly time consuming thing, if I've just got to work and parked my car I might take 10 sec to reply to a message before I get out, if I'm waiting for the kettle to boil, whatever.

I am 2 years in, don’t live together and we text on and off during the day everyday and have a 5 minute FaceTime most days. I see him a few times per week.

Met someone recently, we used to chat almost daily, had a few dates, been about a now week she had responded to me now, so she’s probably moved on / got cold feet etc

LDR, message during the day and talk for at least an hour most days

We message on and off all day from when we wake up til we sleep. Usually call each other at lunchtime and after work too. Spend every Fri to Sun together as during the week busy with work and kids .

Good communication is very important for me to feel connected as we don't live together and fortunately feeling is mutual.

We message on & off on the days we’re not together. We spend 3/4 nights a week together so it works out we see each other almost every day before or after work but we don’t live together yet.

Together 7 years we talk every day. Text every day.

Together 18 months. We message everyday, talk on the phone occasionally and see each other Saturday night/all day Sunday usually, and sometimes a night during the week too.

When my Fiance and I were dating (which wasn't that long before we moved in together) we texted a few times a day, faced timed in the evening and saw each other 2 to 4 days a week.

Daily at least.

Actually really finding all these interesting as my last LTR before the one I’m in now failed because I was apparently ‘too needy’ for wanting contact daily and yet here are loads of other people for whom it’s totally normal