How to tell children about a new partner they already know!?

[Ladybirdd31]

I have read so much advice about new relationships and telling children however none seem to relate.
I had been with my ex husband for 12 years and we have 2 wonderful boys, they took the seperation so well, adjusted to new routines/sleepovers at Daddy's etc... Obvs this is the only relationship they have ever known me to be in.
However fast forward to now... I've fallen in love with a "friend" They already know him, his children and we've spend alot of time together already. How do we go about telling the children (both sides) that we are more than friends. How would they understand this new label? I have no idea where to start...

It depends on the age of the children. Has your ex got a new partner as well? If he has then it might be easier to have that as an example for your own situation.
Mine are teens so it was easier in some ways but more difficult in other ways. I think it's great that you've already spent a lot of time together. It makes it easier to broach the subject. But first I assume you are in an intimate relationship, right? I would try saying things like you're really happy to spend time with your 'friend', that you really care for him and he feels the same. You do need to make it clear that it doesn't affect your love for them at all and they are secure about that always. Are your boys aware or think about if you still love their dad? Maybe you have to mention that as well in the way that's kind and they can understand that you can love different people in different ways. Again it just depends on their age if and how you do this.
It may be best to avoid putting a label on your dating until you know how serious your relationship is - you don't say how long he's been more than a friend or how committed you are.
The most important this is that if it all goes wrong, would you lose him as a friend too which obviously would impact on your boys as well? I would wait until there's a permanence to your relationship to actually put a label on, maybe that's just me. There's some advice on line if you search terms like 'dating single dads'.

How old are they?

how long have you been romantically involved with the friend?