I have a colleague whom I have known for a very long time, and whom I have had a crush on for just as long. When I met them, I was in a long-term relationship, so suppressed it. Now I'm not. The fact I'm no longer attached is out there on the grapevine, but I don't know if they know. As far as anyone is aware, they are also single.
They like me, I'm fairly sure, but I don't know if they like me "like that". When we first met, I did wonder if they did, maybe, like me "like that", but I quickly dropped my then partner into the conversation, because I didn't want them to ask me out if they were interested. I didn't want things to be awkward. They are generally kind and charming, so they could very well just have been being nice. It's likely I have disorganised attachment disorder. When it comes to people I like a lot, I find it very difficult to tell whether I am reading too much, or too little into their behaviour, or whether I am actually getting it right. Definitely, I overanalyse.
Due to COVID, we've all been WFH for quite a while. I will be spending an extended amount of time with them online soon for work, and I will be seeing them and the rest of the team in person for the first time in ages soon after that. I'm sure the team will be doing social stuff, but does anyone have any suggestions as to how I could find out if they would be interested in maybe meeting up outside of the work group, without embarrassing either of us, and without risking ruining a good working relationship?