Has anyone ever had an ex come back after a year?

[Strippedbaree]

And has it worked out? Do all exes eventually come back in some form?

I suppose how it ended and who ended it has an impact.

No, if it didn't work out last time, why would it now?

My ex and I got back together after 23 years. Married and still blissfully happy 5 years later.

That's not to say it can't happen! But ime, no.

I am wondering I guess. I think the how did it end and who ended it is interesting. I sort of feel ours is unfinished business and 9 months on Im still wondering. I’ll never contact him first though but I do wonder.

Mine did, ashamed to say I welcomed him with open arms (in my defence I was 5 months pregnant with our 3rd child when he left me for OW and wasn’t in the right frame of mind), he left for OW again 3 months later. Over 6 years on and he still keeps his foot in the door, DON’T DO IT!

I've been with my DP 11 years. 2 years ago we split for a year. Someone else was involved.

We got back together and things have been better than ever and currently trying for a family.

It depends I guess how willing you and your ex are to really work things out and leave the past behind. Everyone is different.

I hope he comes back ando hope we can work things out. I feel like I’m different now but I know more than ever he would need to have changed. Maybe it’s not worth it. I guess it’s all a moot point anyway as I doubt he’ll ever come back or even get in touch.

@Strippedbaree we got back together as there was a massively clear indication from us both that we had changed as people and massively grew up. We were not enough same people we were in our 'previous' relationship.

We wanted the same things and were willing to try and at least see how things went and it was, for us, better than our past relationship.

Im glad it worked out for you @pugmum it’s lovely when it does work out and it’s better than ever and better than before.

My ex came back and everyone warned me not to do it and it was my one cardinal rule not to go back with an ex, but I did it and honestly it was the worst decision I ever made 🙃 never ever ever again

Yes, a few...for sex.
Never go back.

Yes and no it didn't work out. Especially when time passes. He felt like a stranger, the bond was broken. We had both been with other people. The whole experience felt weird and I cut it off.

He phoned me out of the blue one day about 6 months after he dumped me. I told him to piss off.

My ex and I were 10 years into our relationship. Friends were getting married and having families and we were on track to follow suit. Then he had a bit of a mid life crisis and decided that he needed to travel, party and basically liven his life up. We split up, bought our own homes and rebuilt our lives. We stayed in touch and after 18mths he suggested getting back together.

During our time apart I'd done some travelling and developed an active social life and taken up new hobbies. He had decided that he preferred a quieter life and was back to gardening and DIY again. We did try to make it work 2nd time around but decided that it wasn't going to work as our new lives weren't that compatible.

We have stayed friends and go on holiday together with mutual friends which is great. I think that the fact that we both had a lot of respect for each other and looked out for one another meant that we were able to transition to friendship successfully. We both have good memories of our time together but are happy with where we are now.

@Strippedbaree

I hope he comes back ando hope we can work things out. I feel like I’m different now but I know more than ever he would need to have changed. Maybe it’s not worth it. I guess it’s all a moot point anyway as I doubt he’ll ever come back or even get in touch.

You may be ready now for an improved relationship, but the other person won’t have been on the same journey as you.

It’s very unlikely that they have changed who they are within 12 months, and had some sort of magical spurt in personal growth.

It’s impossible to ‘change’ other adults, so if you are seeking to re enter a relationship with this person, be prepared to take them as you left them.

I would say it’s not likely to be worth it, but only you will know.

I would always be waiting for the next terrible thing…

No, in my experience exes don’t come back and it’s a bloody good job they don’t.

There are billions of people in the world. Millions in your own country. Thousands in your town / city / county. Hundreds, even thousands that you know or meet or bump in to during the course of your life.

If you are looking for a good relationship, I would start with the ones you haven't yet tried over one that you tried and it didn't work.

The only exception would be if it was a great relationship in many ways, they are a great person, but there was a barrier stopping you being happy when you were first together, and that barrier has now disappeared (eg geography, opinions on having children).

Jeeze, yes my exes normally pop back up like zombies in a shite film or some sort of whack a mole game.
There is a reason why they're an ex and time moves on. If you've changed so has he and moving on rather than looking back is probably the most healthy thing to do I guess.