Online Dating - Is he interested?

[MrsSnape]

Very, very first stages of internet dating. A bloke replied to my profile last week. He seemed nice, not too far away, kids of his own etc so I messaged him back. We messaged back and forth about nothing inparticular and then he asked if I wanted to chat via msn. I said "ok" and added him to my msn.

However I heard nothing from him at all after that, he never once came on msn. Then I got a message from him on the dating site asking if I'd been on msn, if so he must have missed me so I said I'm only on it after 8pm but gave him my email address just incase I hadn't added him properly.

Again I heard nothing at all after that. This was 3 days ago and he's not been in touch by the site or msn once. Tonight however I recieve another message via the site saying he doesn't go on msn much but gave me his mobile number.

Is he messing me around? I can't be arsed to prat about.

Could you send him a text? Say you seem to keep missing each other...

I am not very wise on internet dating, but hopefully someone else will be!

From someone who knows a bit about internet dating - sounds as though he likes you. He wouldn't have given you his mobile number otherwise.

if you want to know, send a message back, something like 'hi, this is MrsSnape, sorry I missed you, how are you doing?'

If he's interested, you will get a response.

HTH!

i'd text him, but if you hear nothing back for a couple of days, leave it. he's a game player, blowing hot and cold. tbh i think he's already doing it.

So...what did you do in the end?

The philosophy should be (much as I might ignore it); if anyhting is like hard work this early on then walk away, walk away, walk away.

I'm doing a good job of ignoring this notion as we speak

Thing is with internet dating, people do tend to back several horses at once so it's worth being a bit tolerant of inconsistency in the early stages. Once it progresses beyond the early messaging/chatting it would be reasonable for you to expect a bit more reliability, though.

I havnt bothered yet, not sure I will. I like to take these things slowly and being expected to phone him or text him this early on when I know nothing about him seems a bit unreasonable to me.

I think if he was interested he would put a bit more effort in with the online stuff for now.

Ah well.